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Submitted by bluehighlighter on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 10:07am

I hate pretending like the lil side "pee on leg of dad" comments don't exist (territorial)
My SS is 8 going on 9 and a Minihusband to SO

What comebacks do you have to their comments and talks that exclude you? What do you say... see last blog. What I think I might say next time is "yes like the ones your dad and I go to alone, as a couple, together, when you are away"

I really want to say that. This kid knows what he's doing and his child psych. told me to call him out on it ... to show him it's not ok with me. How IDK it'll be a while til we see her again.

Any ideas... real ideas LOL not ones we only WISH we could say but actually can say!

Thanks!

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 10:56am

Listen to Echo. Treat him the way cats treat humans.

If you don't look at him, he doesn't exist. He's looking for a confrontation and bottom line......

Adults do not engage children.
Adults do not negotiate with children.

Then grab your H by his ear and lay down the law with him. HE should be addressing the mouth on his kid. HE should be the one making it clear to the child that his behavior is unacceptable and knock it off or get punished. Otherwise your H is telling his child it's okay to treat you rudely and disrespectfully.

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Submitted by somedevilishbeauty on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 11:34am

If he says he doesnt want to do it then DH needs to tell him fine we will all go with out you. Then follow through with it if he doesnt decide to change his mind and want to go with family. SD used to do this. As soon as she got left behind she got her poor little fe fe's hurt and i haven't seen her do it since.

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Submitted by bluehighlighter on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 12:15pm

They do do things alone together sometimes b/c i didn't want him to lose that one on one time.

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Submitted by bluehighlighter on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 12:17pm

I think this helps alot THanks!!! I think his doctor said something similar and I had forgotten

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Submitted by bluehighlighter on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 12:18pm

I usually do that. I don't want to eventually letting it eat at me til I flip out

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Submitted by bluehighlighter on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 2:48pm

he doesn't really have a mom she's not around at all just left again after really only getting to know him part of last year.

i think it's the "losing" dad thing, jealousy

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Submitted by Hanny on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 11:43am

I think you are giving this kid way too much credit! He's 8, yes he is probably jealous of his father and your relationship. But don't stoop to his level. Just say nothing.