SOOOO I don't even know what to think anymore. SS8 has done some "sweet"ish things lately and then also some very alienating things. (see past couple blogs)

sweet as of yesterday "bluehighlighter do you want to spend special time with us?" (special time is what is a 10 minute one on one daily activity the two of them have to do together per his child psych.) He's never actually ASKED me himself to play and the day before he even said "is it going to be just the two of us dad" loudly from another room.

He didn't seem prompted to ask so I have no idea. After I told him "oh sure, thank you" and then offered him some of my mango, I headed upstairs where he asked his dad (after I had already said yes to SS) "is bluehighlighter going to play? yessssssss." I don't know if he's doing all this to appease his dad or what but whatever.

I'm so confused as to who this kid is on a daily basis. I learned the hard way last year that him being "sweet" doesn't actually mean he likes you it's more of a control thing to him sometimes I think . like "oh I'll play nice today and she'll do what I want, am i not so cute and adorable??? look at me hug me look at me I'm cute"

I'd like to give the kid some credit but in the same breath he says something nice or asked me to be involved he'll turn around and stand right in between me and SO or hover or mention very alienating things : "remember dad like when it was just the two us, alone" or "we had a cover like this when I used to sleep in dads bed" "a few years ago before bluehightlighter when we went just you and I dad"
"is it just going to be the two of us just you and me dad"

IDK with the hell to think
The danger is I'm a caring person and i might get swept up in thinking that things are getting better and then WHAMMMMM manipulation at it's finest and rude cruel behavior that SO doesn't even understand how it is rude or cruel... "oh he doesn't even know what he's doing"

IDK I'd like to believe things are turning around slowly but past experiences have taught me to be extremely cautious