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just a vent....

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so hate when dh gets the call to be "daddy" to satanized sd16. I know I'm the adult I absolutely am repulsed when an almost adult calls dh daddy, ewww! hate it! grow up. can't stand for her to want to visit because she has " super life changes", whatever! ugh my dd5 and I are gonna find something else to do for that visit time! thanks for a place to vent....as I type from my phone hiding in the bathroom.

hmmm Im stumped....

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Little long.....I made the appearance for DH at his family gathering because he was on call and couldn't/wouldn't attend. This years gifts were bought and paid for mainly by me and my time spent shopping for them. He did not help just assumed I would do it. So I traspied to the gathering place put presents under the tree and thought that was that. However I am now told I addressed the labels wrong. I put DH name and mine on them only. Children are 16, 19, and 21....the 21 year old didn't even bother to show.

I refuse to say I told you so...

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Crappy, crappy SD16, 19, 21 ....dont know why I expected better attitudes at Christmas SHAME ON ME! DH gives them each a present and money but he didnt receive even a card or thank you. Children showed up late Christmas morning because they were tired from Christmas eve with their mother. SD21 didnt even bother to call. I did not hold present time from my 5 and 15 year old due to the entitles step brats. We cooked breakfast and they refused because their mother had better stuff waiting. You could see the hurt in DH eyes.

alone is beginning to sound like the best option....

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The family I am in LOVES drama. I despise the extra crap that follows all the stupidity that comes because people cannot grow up. A continuing saga with the SDs is growing each and every day. I somehow do not think that I can ever forgive his children for how they have treated me. Is this wrong? He wants me to work on a relationship with his children even though I believe them to each have two faces. It seems that I am being made to chose. I never thought there was a choice. I love this man but cannot understand his children. Help!!!!

OK WHEN DOES ALL THE DRAMA stop.......

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So darling SD16 comes for a visit. Oh yippee!! Whatever. Anyway DH feels the need to whisper while I am in the kitchen I guess so I can't overhear the convo. WTH? I don't understand the need I wasn't paying much attention until my D5 asked why those two are whispering. I tell her that evidently there is a secret that needs to be kept just between those two.

Believe me I have disengaged but I do see red, wish I didn't, but I do. Is it time to go? Do I talk to him in order to let him know it bothers me or just say, "hey whatever"?

SD moved out....

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I am so thankful to have found this forum (insert sigh of relief). Since my last entry the darling SD has moved on. New issue: Went to school meeting for D5 and the teacher asks me what's going on because the rumor is circulating school. Oh gee how I love these small town drama mills!

I have been shunned by people who used to speak to me, snubbed by school officials and loudly discussed as if I am not around. Normally I do not play into this but my D5 has started to notice.

How would any of you handle this issue?

And the saga continues.....

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DH and I went to court today over what we thought was an issue related to SD19 college bill. Low and behold (insert smack in face) it was actually a veiled case regarding my "abuse" of SD16. Lawyer of Exwife told her to bring the 19 and 16 SD to court today over the supposed abuse. Stated in my previous blog SD16 went through my diary, made copies gave to mother, and DH, posted online and such. Well, well, well those copies showed up in court today as the mental abuse that I am causing the SD16.

Picture issue...

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I have been part of a step family for approx. 3 years. DH has 3 girls ages 21, 19 and 16. I have S15 and D5. I was friended by DH sister's girls ages 17 and 13 on FB. No problem, right? WRONG. As I looked at the profile pictures I came across last christmas' pictures of the children. There were several pictures of the girls, mine including, taken but DH sisters' 17 year old that had drawn faces over D5s face. I was a bit hurt afterall she is only 5. I did discuss this with DH and his sister as well. Neither of them see it as a big deal because "oh that's how kids are" BS!!

new and need help/insight!!!

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Long story but am needing advice....here goes. I have been with my SO for 3 years living together 2. I have a daughter,5, and he has a daughter at home, 16, that sees her mom rarely. Problem; I was taught in therapy to journal in order to assess my private feelings. His 16 year was snooping and found my journal in my bedroom on my nightstand. Not only did she read it she made copies gave them to my SO and her mother. Shared them with her sisters, grandmother and posted online. She tells me it was a mean and malicious attack on her and her dad.