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Seriously-WTF?

My 50 year old BF is so "guilty daddy" to his D8 that he can't relax ever when I'm around. He thinks I should applaud her every obnoxious statement or sound. So he's saying the other day how they will have to move out if I don't "be accountable to, except responsibility for, and apologize for" all the things I do that make him tense. Yet, when pressed for factual examples of my "overbearing" behavior, he can't come up with anything specific.

Just gotta vent!

Ugh, ugh, ugh, just got to vent! Why can't BF make "our time" our time? He tells SD7 that since she has no school tomorrow, she can stay up later, BUT MUST FIND SOMETHING TO DO because it is "our time". So we have a little drink and play some cards. But SD7 comes in 5 or 6 times to engage us in what she is doing. Not once does he tell her this is our time. I go along with it politely. At the end of our game, she wants us to look at a pic on the computer of a volcano and he gets up to do that as I'm making my last play!

Starting To Disengage

I am so glad I learned that term-"disengage". I had started to do it without even knowing what it was. I had told BF that over time, I had been handed most of the child-rearing chores, while he just wanted her love and fun. She was getting resentful of me being the heavy, and I was resenting them both for making me be. On top of that, he doesn't want to hear a word of anything wrong she does, so he didn't always understand why I was enforcing some rules or being burned out. :?

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