}:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year.(We have dated in the past). He was married for 5 years. He has two children ages 5 and 7. I have a daughter who is 14. She controls him more than I ever thought was possible. She uses the kids as pawns, and because of the fear of her keeping them away from him, he does what she says. His son was eligible to go to kindergarten last year, she didn't feel he was ready and held him back. He gave her 70 cash weekly(without going threw the courts) to shut her up. It was for his day care payment. Once he stopped(per their agreement) she took him back to Domestics and he was ordered to pay 70 extra a week. Then again they made another agreement this summer(without the court) to drop the 70 a week, if he helped with childcare. She gave him 3 calenders for the months of June, July and August. She was responsible for 10 days a month. So 30 out of 90 days. It ended up costing more than 70 a week, but was a nice summer with the kids. She is a money hungry woman. She has a 13 year old, my fiancees 2 kids, and now is pregnant with her 4th child from a man she is no longer with!!! She does not provide the attention these children need. They love me, and love coming to our house. A few weeks back my fiancee and I had a disagreement at home(the kids were not here), and were never here when we had an argument. (EVERY argument we EVER had was because of her, and the fact he lets her control his life OVER AND OVER AGAIN). Well the police were called, I was arrested. It was a minor disagreement. I am back at the house. She is threatining him to take him for full custody with supervised visits. To shut her up again I will leave our house on the night he has the kids. She has a problem with every decision that is made here. We don"t have the money to take her back to court right now so I will have to do this until things hopefully blow over. She told their 7 year old I was in jail and she doesn't want me near them. I feel like we are letting her win again. She only causes problems every few months. If she gets bored and lonely...She attacks our happiness. We could care less what she does. I don't know what to do. One thing I know though...the more she pulls this stuff, the stronger she makes us. We are getting married, whether she likes it or not. She needs to worry about her next victim and getting child support and childcare for her new baby. Please help...I know Im not the only one with this issue.