Hi, all - 

First-time entrant here, and glad to find this forum. I didn't know where else to turn.

My husband and I have been together for 20 years, married for 11. His first marriage lasted 30 years; mine, 15. He has two adult children; I have one adult child.

When he divorced, his kids stayed with their mother; when I divorced, my daughter came with me. His ex-wife has not remarried, and is still in their old house. My ex-husband has remarried and has moved out of the country with his second wife and their kids.