He wants his cake and to eat it to - I'm so mad for you right now that I just want to rip his head off. How could he even think of saying something like that to you as if that was an option. You deserve better and you need to move on and let BM have him, they are both crazy and deserve each other.

You really do deserve so much better, you deserve a man who wants you and just you and treats you with respect and love. Your fiance sure isn't that man

he's afraid to loose a sure thing (you) and take a chance on ex. Missangie is right - he wants his cake and eat it too. You deserve so much more than what this jerk is offering you. I know it is hard. But I hope you tell him to get out NOW..or whatever the case may be...if it's his place, you need to get your stuff together and move out now because this is only going to hurt you more.

NCP should have rights too!]
He is trying to have it all, the wife and family and the little ms. on the side...You are far to good for this man, and btw, it doesn't take balls to ask you something like that, it takes nerve, stupidity& selfishness!!!!!Personally that in and of itself would be enough to make be want to brush his ass off and move on with my life! I know you are very hurt by this whole situation he has placed you in, but sweetie, this situatuation is NOT getting better, he has gone from playing the guilt card to playing the " BUT I love you and dont want to lose you" card...which is played for one reason and one reason only.... to keep YOU hanging on to him with the HOPE that he will come around and really realize that its you he wants to be with....PLEASE, PLEASE, dont fall for this b.s.!!!He is playing you and you certainly do not desearve this. Please put yourself first. I know it seems easy for any of us to tell you to just walk away, but believe me, we would walk away too, as painful as it is...Ultimatly the decision is yours alone, and no matter what you decide, we are here for you.

He figures hey I will give it a go and see if it works with the ex but if I keep her (you) hanging on that way if it doesn't then he will have you to fall back on.
Run, Run Run you deserve someone much much better

Live for today,you may not have a tommorow

trying to figure out what is wrong with him. You should know now he is not worth your time! Remember what Dr Phil says, there is only one thing worse than staying in a bad relationship for 6 months, that's staying in it for 6 months and 1 day!

I know this hurts deeply, to hear from the man you love and trusted, but he has shown you another side of him, a side you don't love and trust, so you now have to move on and let him move on...and if it doesn't work for him with ex, you must let him know that you will not be waiting around! He will no doubt end up a lonely man, but that is his decision!

because he wants to have it all. He isn't worried about who he hurts, he simply wants to have the ex and his "back-up." Trust me, you are more than a back-up and you deserve better.

marika

Girl... you NEED to move on. This man is nothing but trouble and totally doesn't give a rats a$$ about you... TRUST ME! Let him collect his things, than change the locks and phone number PRONTO!

StepMom

Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...

Just piping in again to say that I'm sorry, and that I'm glad you've decided that hanging around isn't an option. Who knows why he's doing this? Either there is something that you don't know here, or he is just a MAJOR douchebag and can't stand up to his ex, because he is clearly not committed to going back anyway, or else he wouldn't be trying to secure you this way "just in case". If it's just for the kids, well, he can still be a good father without being with their mom. Obviously it didn't work the first time or they wouldn't have split up. Some people really never learn from the past.

You mentioned that you are renting a place together. I hope that he doesn't plan to leave you to pay the rent on your own. If he wants to try again with the ex, fine, that's up to him, but he doesn't get to leaev you holding the bag emotionally AND financially. I hope this isn't the case.

GOOD LUCK! Be strong. There are good men out there.

kristin

Bless your heart, what a miserable way for him to behave. I'm with the others, you need to steel your heart, walk away and make sure you don't look back, cause I highly doubt that he and ex/w are going to be able to make it work for the long term and he'll probably come chasing after you.

Amazing that he thinks you should stick around while he drags your heart through the muck. Reminds me of my ex husband who told me when I finally filed for divorce that he "never wanted a divorce, he only wanted a year off from the marriage".
(((HUH????)))

It's all pretty nuts. Sending you all sorts of good thoughts.

put all your feelings of love aside for a moment and really let it sink in what he is telling you. He wants to sleep with his wife and he wants to sleep with you. That being said doesn't that grouse you out. It does me. Grouse. What a poor excuse for the term MAN.
Loose him and move on, I can tell you that you will find someone else and they just may be the right one. If you stay in this situation you will end up being hurt time and time again. Run like the wind honey. He isn't even worth the words of "its over". You do not want to be sloppy seconds you deserve more.. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and focus his time and energy on you.. I know the hurt you must be filling inside but let go of the hurt and get angry at him.
did you ask him while he was at all this shit if he was going to leave $200 dollars on the night stand? I say that because that is what he is treating you as. SO get pist off and have some respect for yourself.
Good luck...
Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..