The crazy continues!
We had two guests yesterday. TWO. Both grandmothers came to the house around 4pm yesterday and I had to deal with them until my husband got home from work.
Normally I wouldn't mind grandmothers visiting their own grandchildren. But these women have been BFF's since my husband and his ex were together. They share the same views on everything and both have some serious problems with me. For example, the kids joined us in the living room and within seconds of sitting down these women started with the questions and complaints. "Son, why would you pick being gay over your own mother?" "Kids, why would you abandon your own mother?" "Kids, how could you choose this woman over your own mother?!" "Kids, why can't you tell your dad and Isabelle you belong with your own mother?!" "Kids, why are you calling her mom? She's not your mom!" I told the kids to leave if they felt uncomfortable and they did, within half an hour of their grandmothers arriving.
My MIL told me, to my face, that she was never going to love the baby I'm expecting the way she loves her older grandchildren. She said she actually likes her grandchildren's mother and she hates me for turning them against "their own mother!!" I had to bite my tongue because I've been having problems with the pregnancy since the stuff with my kids mother. I need to take it easy and not get into anything. So I was dealing with them as best as I could until my husband got home. It was hard. I wanted to cry a few times. And I wished the kids hadn't been in the house when they were here.
When my husband got home he sent me straight upstairs and told me not to come down until they were gone. Then the grandmothers started in on him. His own mother told him he was selfish for putting his ex in jail. I heard him tell both of them he hadn't, the police had, he only asked for her to be removed from our property. After a few minutes they were gone. But I heard them say they would be back today and Saturday and Sunday. We'll be leaving once my husband gets home from work today and we won't be home until they leave on Monday. It's not worth staying here when they'll keep coming over and trying to get in. I'm just annoyed that I have to deal with them on top of everything else. I'm doing my best, as is my husband, to shield the kids from them as much as possible. My husband has also promised that if they go too far, he'll call the police on them as well. So, we'll see. I'm hoping it won't come to that.
For some good news. The baby is doing well and we (the kids and I) know the gender of the baby. But my husband doesn't want to know. So it's going to be fun seeing if he caves or not. And, to add to the good stuff going on, the kids are calling me mom now.