Female Undergarments....SD11 Won't Wear Them!
So my SD11 (almost 12) is blossoming into a young woman. She NEEDS to wear a bra. Every time I see her, in her tight shirts, she is NOT wearing one. She has been wearing one of those tight, stretchy cami tops recently as night clothes. It makes me sick to see her "buds" almost popping out.
So this morning when we were getting ready to leave, I asked her, "are you wearing a bra?"
"No," she said,
"You need to wear one from now on..." So she sulked away pouting.
Now, I embarrassed her a few weeks ago in front of her brother trying to get her to wear a bra. I told her she needed to cover her "buds".
I just love how SO says he does not want to see his daughter on a dance pole.... but she sure dresses like she dances on one...
So I am open to suggestions on this... Any ideas?
does she at least put one on
does she at least put one on when you tell her to?
Yes, but she mopes and pouts
Yes, but she mopes and pouts about it. It is so annoying.
I have thought about another "bra shopping" session... maybe some new ones will help... I just hate spending the money and her not wearing them!
the moping is expected, she's
the moping is expected, she's 11 and still getting used to the "idea" of a bra.
reason's like this, i started my dd now and she's only 8 (has a small bud starting)
Explain to her you do not
Explain to her you do not care if she wants to wear one or not. The simple fact is she will, because she was told to, and needs to. End of discussion, no debate allowed.
As a PS: you might take her shopping to pick out her own. My youngest skid had an issue and it was because the bras her father had bought her did not fit, were uncomfortable etc. I brought her to V. Secrets had her fitted for a bra there, then took her someplace a lot cheaper and gave her a price limit. She had to have 5 bras, and could only spend $x.00. She picked out what she wanted. We no longer have problems with her wearing one during the day... although the kid is weird, she now wears them at night too, will not take them off to go to sleep.
when I was a kid, I did the
when I was a kid, I did the same thing to get use to bras, I would sleep in them.
I figured if I could sleep in it, it would be comfortable enough during the day.
I am thinking about a shopping trip.
thank you for your reply!
DD is also 11. Though she is
DD is also 11. Though she is not developing as quick as older DD.
Check to see if the bras fit- Ydd wears the camis with built in bras under all shirts. She also prefers sports bras to a regular bra. You could try either or both.
Instead of embarrassing her maybe have a heart to heart to find out why she's fighting wearing one. I did that with sd - come to find out her mom guessed at her size never allowed her to try them on or just bought them for her and expected her to wear it anyway.
IMHO you're making an enemy
IMHO you're making an enemy unncessarily. I think the suggestion that you find out why she doesn't want to wear one is a good idea.
Pick your battles. The teen years are rough enough without getting into a fight over a minor things. Billions of kids grow up every year without help from you or me. This one will also.
I know this is going to sound
I know this is going to sound weird, but if she doesn't wear one to school she will eventually be picked on for her buds. I would say let the peer pressure be what motivates her to wear a bra. You will be the enemy to make her wear it, but you would also be the santuary she runs to when she gets picked on.
My oldest dd13 has been
My oldest dd13 has been wearing a bra since age 9. I've never had a problem with her wearing one. She was starting to develop so we went shopping and got her some. Done deal. I'd just tell her that it's a necessary garment-just like her underwear (hoping that she wears underwear?) and that she is expected to wear it or people are going to be staring at her boobs.
My SD12 is the same way -- it
My SD12 is the same way -- it grosses me out, but BF will tell her to put one on if i say something to her. My BD11 - was like that for a very short period of time & like you - i told her it was necessary & she even wears one to bed.
I would tell her that since she is developing she needs to wear an under wire bra and then show her a pic of old saggy boobs & tell her that's what she will look like if she doesn't start wearing one. haha
thank you for the comments!
thank you for the comments! I will be trying to tell her it is "necessary" and maybe take BD11 and SD12 out for new ones. I know that BD11's are not comfortable, so it will help.
thank you again!
I dont know my dd13 would
I dont know my dd13 would rather die at this point than go braless. But even at 9 she was cool with it. My youngest dd is also now 9-just not as developed as my dd was at that point. She has discussed some of her classmates getting bras even though they have not yet developed and I asked her if she wanted one-she said no-but I kinda think she does.