Such a long story, but I'll do my best to keep it short. My DH and I have been together for 5 years and 3 of them have been spent avoiding direct contact with the baby momma. We do the drop-off/pick-up thing through my MIL. And up until recently they haven't even spoken on the phone because my husband cut contact early on due to some things she did and said to try and break us up. So,my husband's father died recently and she used that as her way to force contact between them for their "son". She told my SS before my own husband even got the chance then she called him --secretly--so that he could "comfort" his son. I accidentally found out and was upset that #1 she told my SS before we could and #2 that the calls were secret. I handled it with my husband. In the process I found out just how two-faced my MIL has been and how close she really is with the baby momma (whom she supposedly has zero respect for and talks bad about her every chance she gets) But according to baby momma they are beasties. That was news to me! So I thought I'd kill two birds with one stone,....cut out the middle man (MIL) and do pick up/drop off ourselves so it squashes their girl time and puts me back in the picture to remind baby momma who the wife is here. So we called the momma's on speaker phone and set em both straight .All is well right? Open communication, what could go wrong, right? NO! what I got was more than I could have ever prepared for....!!! All of a sudden (instantly) baby momma called the very first day saying She needed us to call her or go to her house ASAP! She said she heard SS saying he was gonna shoot somebody (he's 7) and she was gonna have him admitted! My husband was at work and for hours she called/texted both of us and begging me to come over. We have NEVER had a problem with him, and all of a sudden his mother is going to have him admitted!!! Before my husband could finish saying he was coming to get him she said come on. So I go from every other weekend to proud mother of a 7 yr old in 2 seconds! With no discussion. We get to her house (my first time there) and it is like a really bad episode of hoarders....I mean for real! My hubby and I couldn't even step a foot into the house. It was very awkward. They had trails through the junk from one room to another and that was it! Now, we were there (standing in the doorway) for 45 minutes while she "looked for something" she didn't offer us to come in (fully) or sit- not that we could have-and she darted around climbing over stuff and flipping stuff and at one point was on her back looking under a table. I would've laughed if this were a different situation. My husband and I just looked awkwardly at each other while this was going on. I felt bad for my SS, this is where he lived! And this is who he lived with! She has a live in bf and a new baby plus she's pregnant again :/ So after all that time I said to her not to worry about the item, I could just go pick it up the next day and I told my SS to tell momma bye and come on. She followed us outside to talk. She was clearly having a drug induced manic episode. She was twitching and slurring her speech and talking about craziness. But in the 10 minute talk I learned (from her) that she is diagnosed Bi-polar, schizophrenic, psycosis and all sorts of other crazy. Why would she tell me this??? With the tense relationship we've had in the past I could use this stuff against her! Does she realize what she's doing! Anyway, things intimately calmed down and a few days later we brought him back home. I can't stop wondering, is this in his future? Will he have momma' s mental illness? He seems normal to me, aside from being bratty and self-centered. I just don't know what to expect.....