My 11 year old SS started coughing last night. He woke up this morning coughing, but otherwise in good spirits, no fever, runny nose, etc. He is prone to allergies and post-nasal drip and he gets these coughing fits every once in a while. When he was younger he would stay home from school because of his cough and basically jump around and party like he's perfectly healthy other than his cough while DH works and I "take care" of him at home (I am a SAHM). So when DH said he should stay at home today instead of going to school; I disagreed and believe he was fine enough to go to school. I told him that if he is going to make the decision to keep him from school, then he is his responsibility (aka YOU take care of him). He got very upset at that comment because he "absolutely cannot stay home from work"--and mind you, he owns his own business and can absolutely work from home and has done it plenty of times before. Sometimes he just doesn't go to work that day because he feels like it; his schedule is absolutely flexible. I just felt he made a decision about his son and tossed the rest of the responsibility onto me. If he was much more ill (i.e. couldn't get out of bed, feverish, etc.) I would not hesitate to keep him home and care for him. But he is not. I do not hesitate to send my THREE year old to school when he has a cough (obvs when he's in good spirits) so why would think it's cool for my 11 year old to stay at home? 

I guess I'm writing to vent but to also get some perspective on this. Am I being cruel? Was it irrational of me to say that since DH thinks SS is sick enough to stay home, that he should also be home too? I've been trying to push more of the parenting of the kids onto DH as I feel he doesn't do much of it, is this one of those circumstances or am I doing too much?

Thanks in advance.