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Here it is a 3 day weekend and I don't know what to do with the issues at hand. My DH feels that he has a legal obligation to make sure that the skids have their own room and sleeping arrangements. I am not sure if we are legally bound to have a room for each SD16 and SS15 but, they say they feel uncomfortable and awkward here in this home. I have shared before that I have family members living here as they are helping me pay the bills in order for us to have a roof over our head. My DH will not stand up to them and say hey this is what we have and there are beds there is room in our home for you guys. Instead DH falls into this pit where the 3 of them separate themselves and in all reality act like they are all better than the rest of us. And the rest of us are paying for them to even be here. There is a ton of clothes and boxes of junk that belong to them we could make room and then build on rooms for them I don't think that it would cost that much. We went to dinner with the skids on Wednesday night the SS16 wouldn't make eye contact with me. I brought up the discussion of hey it has been brought to my attention that you skids don't feel comfortable in our home. What can we do to make a difference. Neither one would answer nor would they even look at me. My SS16 has a gold spoon up her ass and she is far better than I could possibly be she looks down at me and it infuriates me. When I asked what we could do they were like well there is nowhere for us to sleep we don't have our own room. I asked the skids if they want to spend time with their BD, SD16 rolls her eyes and says what kind of a question is that of course we do. I said well then what does it matter if you have to sleep on the top of a bunk bed so that my BGD2 doesn't have to sleep on the top bunk bed. (this bunk bed that I paid for that DH found for 250.00 that I really didn't have but, thought it would help the situation)

My skids want for nothing they have been given everything to them SS16 has an iphone 4G which is better than mine she has a better car she has a nicer computer the list goes on and on and here I am a hard worker and my DH probably couldn't make it on his own with out me and honestly I don't want to be without him. But, he will not stop the skids from walking on us. My SD16 has been so rude when she comes over she won't look at me talk to me and we have all been together for several years. I just don't know what to do I can't afford to have my family members move out so that SD16 and SS15 have their own room every other weekend. Please help me find solutions to this besides having my DH move out that isn't an option. I want the skids to want to be here I want the awkwardness to go away but, there is nothing that I think I can give them so that they can all just be happy. Please help!

I appreciate your perspective

I appreciate your perspective I am having a hard time getting DH to get over the guilt and stand united it is like he has to pamper and beg for them to even talk to him. They are just so rude and you are right they just want to bitch and moan about everything. I just wish that my DH would see the the elephant that stands between us when they are around DH changes and becomes Disney daddy makes sure that we actually have groceries in the house when the skids come any time they aren't here he is like well we can just have beer and popcorn.... My BD21 sees this she has for the last 7yrs it just makes her want to puke because she knows that he tames his language and caters to their needs. This frustrates me. He always has money too when they are around shit the night before we took the skids to dinner he stopped at Taco Bell for me then he told me that is about 6.00 it cost. When I went to dinner with DH and the skids I got to eat for free!!!

I got mad at DH and I told

I got mad at DH and I told him I don't care anymore if the skids don't want to come over anymore I am tired of trying to cater to their every whim it is awkward when they come over because I don't carry around maps to Disneyland, with a tray of cold drinks in case they get thirsty.

I like that idea Foxie really

I like that idea Foxie really that is what they are basically saying we don't have anywhere to go when we come over so therefore we aren't going to come over. We have nothing to do there is no where for us to go! That is the attitude and DH joins in and feels guilty he thinks he has to legally provide them a room...

Does anyone else have these

Does anyone else have these issues of where they put the skids to sleep? Is it just me how are you handling it does DH have to make sure that they have a "room of their own"? What do you do?

I honestly dont know. We have

I honestly dont know. We have that issue but SO said since my BD8 lives here full time she gets a room and his Stwins9 had a bed to share in that room and the other 3Sgirls have to share the other bedroom. When STwins would leave their shared room with BD EVERY time they stayed about a half hour after bedtime., I eventually took it(bed) down to give BD more room. BM of course bitched and moaned about it being "Their house" But SO agreed with me. So now all 5 Sgirls pile up on 3 beds in one room cuz they dont wanna hafta sleep with BD. (BM says it is because she isnt their sister and SGirls are tight and always will be and blablabla) I honestly dont give a rats ass. Now BD has her own room }:) cuz BMs evil plot turned against SGIRLS

I am pissed so because SS15

I am pissed so because SS15 doesnt have his own room DH gets SS15 a movie so I dont watch my
Nightly news so I am in my room with the laptop and decide that I going to watch a movie off net flix
I fall asleep to wake up to DH unhooking the lap top so he can take it to SS15 because DH said he could
Now when we bought our refurbished old laptop we had an agreement that this was not to be used by the skids
Which DH never kept his word to me on that so DH has woken me up
I am angry and resenting SS15 because obviously you are probably seeing the picture here my DH has no balls to say no
You can't have the laptop and a movie and what ever else my SD16 yelled at me in front of DH and said it isn't all about you!!

I am so pissed this causes separation in this home because DH has no backbone no guidelines and the ones that he loves
Gets screwed!!!! Good night I don't know how I am going to go back to sleep now the mfer is now making SS15 bed he waits of course till they are done watching there movie to wake everyone up to take care of the poor SS15

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I appreciate your perspective

I got mad at DH and I told

I like that idea Foxie really

Does anyone else have these

I honestly dont know. We have

I am pissed so because SS15

I am pissed so because SS15