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SS15 delivering Medical Bills to BD

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Submitted by Seasons on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 5:56pm

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SS15 brings in a list of medical bills with no envelope totally laid out on the counter for everyone to see. BM has it all listed as well as the times that she has tried to get payments from BD. The thing that I find ironic is BD lost his job went from earning over 75k a year to now making 28k and she is upset about her 574.00 medical bills the first payments that are paid by BD are his cs then he pays for his credit cards I am providing a roof over his as well as skids head. I wish BM luck in collecting this money.

Love this lifestyle... Being a SM sucks

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Submitted by StickAFork on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 6:01pm

They'll collect it. TRUST ME. If he's working, they'll take it. And they'll garnish from his check if they have to.

Why doesn't he start paying something towards these bills?
Or if he really thinks he can't afford it, why not file for a modification of support? If his income is a THIRD of what it was, then I'm pretty sure he'll catch a break.

Just ignoring it isn't the right thing to do, imo.

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Submitted by hereiam on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 6:14pm

The first thing a person paying CS should do when they have a change in income such as that, is have CS modified.

If the medical bills are his responsibility, he needs to contact the providers and make some arrangements. It will be his check garnished and his credit affected.

Agree with SAF, ignoring is not the thing to do.

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 10/10/2012 - 6:21am

Time to go on the offensive. BM is a worthless POS for putting SS-15 in the middle of this issue and DH needs to smack the piss out of her with the CO for putting the kids in the middle.

The money is a financial issue. BMs actions are a behavioral issue that she must be held accountable for. So, hold her accountable.

Also, SS needs to be sat down and told that this is an adult issue between his mom and dad and he should not be involved in any way. It should also be pointed out to him that his BM asking him to deliver the medical bills was wrong and in the future he should tell her that he will not be her messenger boy. Then your DH needs to call BM and rip her a new asshole for putting SS in the middle of this.

Grrrrrr!! I have no use or time for toxic morons.

As for DHs responsibility on the medical bills. Follow the CO. If he owes for half he should make installment arrangements with the doctors. I would not pay BM since he owes her nothing.

In our case we learned this lesson in the reverse. DickHead was responsible for half of all medical costs not covered by insurance. Since I provided SS's insurance and my DW is the CP we paid all of the copays, etc.... and would send DickHead a copy of all the bills and treatment forms, etc.... He never once paid us and the dipshit bottom 10%er of the legal profession moron famly law judge kept refering the issue to small claims court. Well, over the course of our 17 year blended family adventure the SpermIdiot owes us $10K+ that he has never paid a dime on.

So, do not give BM any leverage over you with medical bills. DH should pay the providers directly for his share. If BM pays them then that is on her.

All IMHO of course.