Alright.. I need some advice here before I absolutely lose my mind.
When I moved in with my fiance I had a 6 year old son and he has a 6 year old daughter. He has full custody of his daughter because her mom is a complete POS. BM has been arrested for drugs and prostitution. She does not pay child support and rarely seen her daughter when visitation was in place. I associate a lot of the behavioral problems to the lack of relationship with her mother. My SD is now 8 and I literally can not stand her. When her father is not around she argues, talks back, just straight up does whatever she pleases. She constantly takes things that do not belong to her. My bedroom is so cluttered with crap because I refuse to leave any thing laying around the house for fear she will either take it or break it. I work full-time. I am currently pursuing a degree. I also am pretty much the primary caregiver for my son and SD. I am so stressed over this. She lies ALL the time! about everything. I started a chore chart on the fridge and each kid is to do a simple chore after school and check it off. I noticed over the last week she has been erasing all of my sons check marks. why? I do not know. I catch her in his bedroom taking toys. She even took a tooth that he had lost at school. He put on his dresser to put under his pillow before bed and she went in there and took it. WHY?? She is so mean to him. I used to get upset because I did not understand why my son didn't want to play with her. Now I understand. She has broken or chewed on almost all of his toys and the ones that she hasn't she has tried to take as her own. She is so bossy. She is always trying to tell all the kids what to do. We had complaints of her taking other kids stuff at school last year. It was so embarrassing. To me she seems like a straight up bully and I do not get it. She is completely manipulative and has her grandparents wrapped around her finger. I am so fed up with this. The other morning I was in the bathroom getting ready for work at 6am (keep in mind kids do not have to wake up for another 1.5 hours and we have 2 bathrooms), she comes barreling through the bathroom door, shoves me into the sink, which cause me to drop my straight iron and burn myself, and then tells me to "get out". Whhhat!?! Who acts like that?
My fiance works a lot. He does deal with it when he gets home, but it keeps happening. This is a daily thing and it makes me not even want to be around her. She constantly reminds me that I am not her mother. It takes everything I have to not tell her to go live with her mother and see what happens.