Hi I'm new and I realize that I'm diving in to some pretty deep water with my first post, but it's what's on my heart and I assume that some of you may be going through or have gone through this.... my fiance has 3 kids... they're very young 6, 3, and 2... and they all call me mom even though they live mostly with their BM... I absolutely adore them, but the truth is... they're not my kids... and every week I have to send them home with their mom... I was married once before and tried for a year to have kids with no luck... and I would like to think that my fiance and I will have a kid one day.... but we've talked about it and he's terrified that having a child with me would make his kids feel less loved... his daughter (she's 6) told her mom that if daddy and me have another baby we won't want her anymore... I know that's a common fear, but it just heightens his desire to not have any more kids... coupled with the fact that his youngest two had serious health issues and nearly died as infants. It hurts so much... how do you deal?? What should I do? He says that if it's that important to me we can have one... but I know he really doesn't want to at all... is it fair for me to have a kid?? I realize I have a lot of time to deal with this issue and that eventually it will all work itself out, but for now.... I'm really confused and hurt...