Every day it is something new. My DH and I have been married for just over a year. Let me lay it out...

When we started dating over 2 years ago he had EOW visitation. His oldest DS was just turning 12. There was an incident at the SS13's school, long story short the school called CPS on BM.
The CPS report say clearly that tey went because of incident at scool and found that the BM home was in such a state of disrepair and filth that for the safety of the kid they were removing them.
Here is the kick, as soon as CPS said they were taking the kids BM made a horrible and untrue accusation about DH, of course this was found to be untrue... But the damage was done the kids went to foster care. An investigation showed that her accusation was a lie and an attempt tp deflect from her.

Anyhoo once kids are in the system it takes an act of congress to get them out. While in foster the 2 younger step sons did however disclose that oldest ss had been abusing them for years at moms house and that they told her but she dd nothing. We have the transcripts of the interviews and many times asked and answered that it happened at BMs and not at dads and they didnt tell dad because mom wouldn't believe them so why would he.

Fast forward BM was charged and pleaded guilty to neglect 4 counts. DH was charged with not getting SS12 mental help pled no contest as how can he get child help if he dosent know it is needed.
Court sent younger boys back home, saying that the custody put n lace by the divorce court in 2007 was good. So basically sent kids back to live with BM and us getting EOW.

Forward to today. BM is nuts has always been abusive ( the reason DH and her divorced) and is very controlling uses the kids as pawns in a sick game of psychological warfare. Right now the kids are dirty and unkept, they come to us in clothes they have worn all week smelling like death. Add to that that she keeps telling them CPS will come if they fght because she will call them and make CPS take them, she tells them that she hates DH and will have him arrested. She questions them like a deranged lunatic until they make up a story she likes. She called my DH asking him why he allows me to beat him in front of the kids (WTF I have never laid hands on my DH I love him).

I honestly feel as if I am losing my mind. I have 2 DDs and I feel like I am walking a tight rope that can collapse at any second. I am not willing to leave my DH because f his crazy ex, but how on earth am I supposed to deal with it? I finally convinced him to go to court and file for mediation and emergency custody because SS calling him overly upset last night was the last straw.

I really do not like my SS's attitudes and actions but I know that the reasons behind them are nt their faults. And sitting here doing nothing to save kids from psychlogical abuse is something I can no longer stomach. This BM really needs to be taken away.

Her actions and just pure craziness is wearing me down. I do not and have never had drama with my ExH we talk about our DD and nthing else. we basically have no contact. I do not know hw to deal with my DHs ex. I try to be supportive but he has been dealing with her shit for many years and I want him to confrnt it and he is scared of her.