Been in this relationship with BD for 6 years. Met SD and fell in love with her immediately. I have 3 kids of my own, which also took to her wonderfully. BM Has been bitter fromt he start, always texting horrible things to make my fiance feel bad for his kid. Bashing me, calling me and y kids names, while all this time her child has been treated with the utmost respect, and had been loved and cared for as my wn I dont beleive a child must be bioligically yours to have loove for them, I just treat a child as I want mine to be treated. Doesnt always work that way, UNFORTUNATL!!! So BM alwats used that chilld as a pawn against my fiance and him stupid and weak would fall for it. He did go back to the nasty witch numerouos times, because of the threats o not seeing his kid. I asssited with court docs for visistations, and he never followed through, would g bak, and BM or EX would drop all charges. My fiance would last no more than a week with BM and leave and come home. YES, I KNOW I HAVE BEEN AN IDIOT, but, I just felt I needed to be in his life. To give him a relationship he has never had. He and his EX/ SD BM, never cohabitated in 8 yearss of childs life. He always cheated on her, and she always used the id. Till he met me. I guess she never thought he would meet someone who actually made him turn his life around for the positive. Well, the threating continued with the child, and the child vn began to call me Mom. Again SD was trreated with love and care, which I think any parent would appreciate and feel good about. That their child was being taken care of. Now, I wasnt trying to be her Mother, SD has her BM, I just wanted her to feel good, loved, and feel that we were her family too. SD was like that for awhile, she would sit with me and cry when it was tme to go back home to BM and would cry an hug me because she didnt wat too leave. She and my Dtr shared a room which was beautifally decorated and had everything they both needed. I spolied her as much as I did my own. We had a beautiful 5 bedroom home, pool, and all the love that child could need with us...I never once badmouthed her BM. But, as time progressed the back and forth with my fiance of going back to EX continued for three years on and off, I put up with horrible messages from BM, threats, just somuch drama!!! SoThat threw me back, when he said tat. I was like prtet fro??? I said if you are that scared o the court system then you are a fool, to let some sick minded, using can innocent child sck ass troll rule yourlife with a child... But yet SD needs protecton from Me??? INSANE...so again, he goes back to the actual CRAZZY SICK ASS BM!!!! that was the last time he left me because he said, he needed to "PROTECT" his child??? I finally went on my own. Again a week later he is calling me, and my number changed He ooked for me and found me, crying and begging or forgiveness thata h cannot lose me, and he cant do this no more that he would do this the right way, and go through the courts. So we get back together, the sick ass BM gets a emergency order stating that I am abusing my SD, mistreating her, and all kinds of ray stuf, of course that is untrue, and gets it, so he cant have my SD around me?? The court system is full of shit too!!! So here we go again, he BREAKS AN LEAVES BACK because SD is saying that I am mistreting her?? That i give her dirty looks, and that my dtr doesnt let her get friut??? Once again, all LIES...I am the type of parent who is fair, and does not believe just because tey are my Biolgical Children will I take their sides f they are worng. But, I can put my hands in fire when it coes to my SD in regards to my children because I ave taught them to be compassionate, respectful, to share, and treat people the way they want to be treated. That is one of our golden rules in life. Anyways I began to notice the change in SD...making up lies about my dtr. Again, My dtr WILL TELL THE TRUTH, SD 11 and my dtr 12. My dtr finally, confessed to me the things that SD 11 would tell her. My dtr nver told me because she Didnt want to cause any arguments between my fiance and I, because f SD. So anyways, after all these awful lies, and betrayal I received from SD after I genuinely loved her, I began to resent her. I felt betrayed, angry, and hurt. I know she is child, but, then again, old enugh to know right from wrong SD i could see the jeaoulousy she had towards my dtr and my fiances relationship. SD didnt like her time with her daddy shared! Well, that I would not have a problem with. When SD spent more time with me. I am the one who took her to get her manicure, take her shopping, buy her whatever she wanted, played dress up with my dr and SD...I guess tha was ok then. Anyways, My fiance has fnally has put a STOP to all of the LIES AND BS my SD has said. But, I dont want her around me or my kids now. SD is coniving, a maipulator like her BM, and a LIAR!!! Its crazy how I have read some posts, of how many SK issues are out there. I truly believe that in rder for a blended family to work it lies, in the parent of the SKids!!! Whatever the EX, BF,or BM put in our kids heads, its up to US as a partnership to reprimend what is in our home. I gave my SD nothng but love, and mu kids gave her respect and welcomed her into our lives, so she could turn out just like her NASTY PSYCHO BM...We want to purchase a home, my fiance and I hav lived apart for 2 years because of this, and now want to buy a hme. Bt, I DO NOT WANT SD AROUND. Her BM says sh is not tobe around me or my children. Then I think my fiance should spend his day during the week out with SD and the one day he gets on the weekend out with SD as well, he can take her whereever she wants ontheir own. I DONT WANT HER CAUSING ANY DRAMA AROUND MY KIDS!!! Nor makiing up LIES ANYMORE!!!! But, we'll see how this pans out, because my fiance has made 95% progress on laying down the law with his kid on the way it isthat he isnt going to leave me, and she needs to understand that!!! She then went and told her BM everything my fiance and she (SD) had talked about...and here comes the text messages again, trying to make SD look like a poor poor little hurt girl, my fiance isnt allowing it anymore, an he hasnt. He told his child that WE RE BUYING A HOME, and thats it, well my fiance can tell my SD whatever he wants but, I am just hanging by a string to finally just walk!!! I LOVE HIM Dearly, but, the resentment i CANT GET RID OF...