So I've been lurking here for awhile. Actually had another account but I felt the nickname would of, with out a doubt, gave me away if someone I knew were to see it, and since I've decided to make a commitment to this site long term I figured I'd better change it.

First off I'd like to apologize for this being so long.

So anyway here's my story.

I've been with SO for a couple years now. He is the most amazing person I've ever known. I've never, in my life, felt this way about anyone or else this wouldn't be so hard, right?
He has 3 daughters [SD9, SD4, SD3] by the most horrible woman in the world. She is a child in a 32 year old's body. She has no job, lives off welfare, and is the town whore. [I'm really not saying this because I hate her, which I do, I'm saying this because it's actually true.] None of these children were planned. They started dating when she was 21 and he was 16 and she told him she couldn't have kids but still magically got pregnant when he had intentions to leave her. They broke up for 5 years but then a drunken one night stand led to SD4 and just plain stupidity led to SD3 [conceived two months after SD4 was born]. So they tried for two more years to make their relationSHIT work. Didn't happen obviously. I don't even want to imagine being in any way connected to this woman for the rest of my life. She has done nothing but spread lies about me to everyone including her children. She doesn't even refer to me by name but instead calls me Snatch.

SO had my babysit the skids every weekend while he worked up until recently when I refused to do it anymore. SD9 is really a horrible child when SO isn't around. She's disrespectful, mean, and snotty. She seems to love making the 3 and 4 year olds cry as she hits them, scratches them, and takes their things. I can't say anything to her regarding her doing something wrong without her screaming and yelling for an hour afterwards. What made me stop watching them was her flipping out over BOXES. Yes boxes. She was playing with her DS while the two little ones played with some boxes we had laying around [they'd had them for a good hour by now]. Well, she decides she's done playing her video game so she'll get up and dictate everything they're doing and actually starts screaming at them to stop touching these boxes. I told her they had them first so she throws the boxes down and starts her tantrum. Well, after a half hour of listening to her screeching I call SO who asks to talk to SD9. Ok whatever. I say your dad wants to talk to you and toss the phone to her from like 3 feet away. TOSS. Underhanded and everything. She seriously starts yelling that I threw the phone at her stomach. Kid if I was going to hit you with something, it sure would not be a phone. Two years of dealing with this crap and I've never laid a hand on her. Ok, so the next morning she apologizes for the way she acted, draws me a picture, all is fine. She proceeds to go home and tell her nasty mother that I, not only, threw a phone at her, but punched her in the stomach as well. Yay! So now BM tells everyone I put my hands on a 9 year old! She even admits she pretty much knows SD9 is lying but she still doesn't want to come over cause Snatch is mean to her. I don't understand how she could say that. I know I'm beyond nice to this girl.

I've done so much to try and make these kids happy and they might as well of spit in my face. SO always sticks of for SD9 saying "well she's ONLY 9." I cannot STAND that excuse! Yeah in May she'll only be 10, then 11, then 32. If you kid is being a brat at least own up to it. He even tried to make me feel guilty about not watching them anymore! Oh did I mention I was 8 months pregnant at the time?

He lets the little ones walk all over him while they are here too. Now those kids are well behaved when he is not around so I KNOW they have manners! They SCREAM at him, and I mean scream, when they don't get what they want. When he tells them not to do something they pretty much laugh in his face. SD3 will not do anything for herself, and what I mean by that is if she's looking for something she will yell at SO to find it. A few times one of her sisters will hand her what she is looking for and she will throw it and say "NO I WANT DAD TO FIND IT!" Both SD4 and SD3 will sit two inches away from SOs face in the morning and just yell until he wakes up. They don't care what he has to say about anything. They won't sleep unless he lays with them and even then it takes hours for them to even try to go to sleep. They purposely dump water on the floor when they bathe. The list goes on.

I've disengaged. I let him deal with it all, but it is so hard to keep my mouth shut when he's letting these kids treat him like this. We can't even have a conversation without SD4 literally climbing on his head.

But I've handled all of this for quite awhile now. The breaking point is that we've had a baby and now he TELLS me he's getting a vasectomy. Ok so you have too many kids so now I can't have anymore? To expect someone to be with you the rest of your life but pretty much tell her one kid is enough for her. I don't get how this is, in anyway, fair to me.

SO tells me how he'll always love me because I'm the only woman that's treated him right. He treats me amazing too, but I think I'm entitled to a family just as much as he is. I've put up with his kids' crap and been a damn trooper about it! I just don't know what to do anymore. This is starting to be way to much if there isn't going to be even a little bit of a happy ending. HELP!!! What do I do?