I am a new step mom of 3+ years. I have two step children who are now 15 and 12. I met them after I started dating my current husband. He asked them how they like me, they said I was fun. Then we sat them down a couple mos later and told them we were getting married. Radio silence. I met the ex several times at sporting events of the kids and after she met me the whole atmosphere changed, I am 12 years younger than my husband. She started telling the kids that I should be their sister not their step-mom. When my husband and I got married, they did NOT accept me in any way and things continued to get worse. He had every other weekend visitation, so they would come stay with us. They started making it so uncomfortable that I felt like a stranger in my own home. I would walk into a room, they would walk out. I would try to start a conversation and they would pretend I wasn't speaking to them. They would talk about me to my husband (in front of me!)and tell him things like I was the spawn of satan and not their family and that their mom said they didn't have to be nice to me. It became so stressful that both of us would do nothing but fight the whole week before they came over. They told him they didn't want to see him anymore unless I wasn't there so I needed to go away the weekends they were there. My husband stood his ground and told them that we were a family now, that they had two separate families and I was his wife now and their step mom and they needed to show me respect. They refused. We tried everything from telling them they had the option to come over and didn't have to if they didn't want to, we tried just offering to take them for the day so they didn't have to spend the night, we tried just my husband taking them out for dinner, they wanted nothing unless I was completely out of the picture. So my husband told them until they decided to grow up and accept me as part of the family, they were not welcome in our home, but that if they ever changed their minds, our door was always open to them. My husband has talked to them several times a week on the phone and they all text regularly, but we haven't seen them now for 2 1/2 years. Life has become stress free & we are so in love & happy. I am 8 mos pregnant and we told them on Father's Day that we were expecting a baby. The response was that they wanted to start seeing us again now. I am afraid to let them back into our lives when they wreaked so much havoc and tried to get us to divorce the first time. I don't mean to be mean, but I want NOTHING to do with them. I had hoped they would contact us after they had grown up and were 18 and no longer manipulated by the vindictive and jealous ex. Their actions hurt me in so many ways. And now that Mark and I moved on and are starting a new family I feel like they are only wanting to get back in to ensure they remain the center of attention. but I will NOT let them treat our child like they treated me. Please help! I want to be a supportive wife to the man I love with all my heart, but I don't think I can emotionally deal with the stress, anger and hurt that I have towards those two brats.