Bio mom split with her hubby of 2 years last August.. he left her because he couldn't stand her kids and her ex husband (my DH).. He flat out told her this..

Well, about 2 months after he left (they hadn't filed for divorce yet) he wants to reconscile.. and bio mom comes to my DH for advice.. (historically speaking her and DH have hated each other and never been on good terms).. yes, this annoyed me, but oh well, it involves the kids mom and their quality of life at her house (which is 50% of the time) so if this helps that, well, I can accept it..

Come to find out.. bio mom's hubby cheated on her when they were dating (for the short 6 months before they got married) and then once again last Spring.. wow! Uh, ok.. not a great guy by anyones standards..

Soooo.. against the advice of DH, she moves this creep back in.. a guy that cheated on her 2 times, left her once, and left her because he couldn't stand her kids..

We even change up the weeks to accomodate her request that she have her kids the weeks he is traveling and out of town.. She wants to work on her marriage without the kids there to distract him.. (yea, WTF, right?)

DH and I roll with it.. then, in December, she tells her oldest son (15) she is thinking about having him move out.. SK15 comes over to our house and is a mess.. (understandably so).. the following day DH gets a text from bio mom wanting to "talk".. again..

Now this time I'm like good grief.. no way. She shouldn't be crying on his shoulder about her relationships.. it's just wrong.. but again, we decide to let her speak so she can give us the scoop.. She claims she "can't get over her hubby's actions and isn't sure if she can forgive him." Then.. nothing. Never kicks him out and in fact wants us to flip the weeks back so they can "build their family".. I put my foot down to this.. the last time we flip flopped the weeks my ex wanted to know why and of course I was honest with him.. he wasn't happy about it, but he complied.. I'm not going through that all over again - don't need him knowing what a looney toones my Dh's ex is..

OMG.. right.. now 6 weeks later.. huge fight ensues with bio and hubby.. she is out with friends and won't come home.. so hubby throws a fit, wakes her sons up in the middle of the night and tells them "get your asses up, you're going to your dads" at 2am for no other reason than he is pissed at their mom.. Luckily their older half sister came home during this and took her to her boyfriends house for the night..

Not one mention of this was made to us - it happened on a Friday and we get the kids back on Sunday for our week.. bio mom didn't call us or anything. She even told the kids not to tell us when they talked to us all weekend.. and if that wasn't bad enough.. her and hubby acted like nothing happened and acted normal all weekend..

Then, on Monday.. another "can we talk" text to DH.. she tells him what happened and both of us are livid. She is "kicking him out" and is done with him.. Well, hell yes, and she would be an IDIOT not to.. That Wednesday she tells her kids he is moving out that weekend and they are divorcing..

He does move out.. and we are all relieved.

Fast forward to last weekend.. her house is very close by and at times we have to pass it in order to go places.. we drive by it Friday night (a night she has the kids) and tah-dah.. hubbys car is in the damn driveway!!! DH and I are like WTF?
Sure enough.. we talk to the kids the following day and bio and hubby went out that evening to "talk about things"..

Then again.. just Tuesday.. I'm driving back from an appointment and his freaking car is there again.. at 9am and it had frost and snow on it so it's obvious he was there overnight..

I tell DH because he needs to know this monster is back over there again.. luckily it is our week with them, so they aren't exposed to his crap.. (yet)

That same day.. another "I gotta talk to you" text from her to DH.. This time I'm livid and so is DH, but again.. it involves the kids well being so we let her talk..

Sure enough.. good ol' hubby wants to work things out and she is thinking about moving him back in.. and she loves him.. and she can't make it financially on her own.. OMG.. I want to scream..

There are two issues here:

1 - the poor kids well being and all this back and forth crap with bio and hubby. He already left her because he doesn't like them. He cheated on her. And verbally abused them in the middle of the night to the point where they had to leave their own home.. (personally I would have called the cops on his ass and he would have spent the night in jail).. This is going to screw with the kids emotionally big time and they are still getting past their parents messy divorce 5 years ago.

2 - bio needs to stop calling my husband for relationship advice. I know some of it falls under the best interest of the kids/co parenting umbrella, but not all of it.. And it's every few weeks she brings the drama to our home.. I'm sick of it.

Anyone have any advice on how to handle this lifetime movie I'm living in..?