Where do I begin.. I've known my boyfriend for over 16 years and we've dated on and off again but for the past 5 years it's been serious with no issues.. I've known his son, now 20 years old, for most of his life but was not directly involved in his upbringing.. He's got isssue with his mother but seems to have a close relationship with her.. He's lived with his father for the past 4 years, due to his issues , but I only recently "officialy" moved in... The Ex wife has come over, probably more times than I know through out the past few years and continualy oversteps her boundarys.. My boyfriend claims he has no control over what she does and most of all he never wants to deal with it because he's afraid it's going to upset his son...To me it's not an excuss but he will 100% avoid conflict at all costs in any situation.. Hard to deal with but when the EX does what she does I expect him to have enough respect for me to address the issue.. Yes, she is a person who is not easy to reason with and she's very vindictive so now that I've moved in she's really overstepping her boundary's. She knows it bugs me and up till two weeks ago I never said a word to her.. I've always channled my comments to my boyfriend. She comes over when I'm at work and even when I'm home to do her sons laundy, which in my opinion he's old enough to do it himself. She does yard work, rearranges little things in the house, cleans her son's room, comes over and brings her friends, which one time she was talking crap about me and my daughter was home (she didn't know it) so my daughter heard everything.. Two weeks ago she came over and didn't think I was home so she walked right in (probably her usual reoutine)but I walked over to the door and said, hello.. She said she was there to see her son, who was sound asleep, at 8am in the morning.. She was dressed in jogging clothes with a leash in her hand.. Yup, she's coming over to walk her son's dog.. Since her son didn't wake up and she wasn't expecting me she walked out and closed the door.. I looked in the back yard and seen the dog running to the back of the property so I figured out what she was up to.. I then waited a few minutes and walked out the front door to confront her... Well long story short she's a crazy person and just fought with me about how she feels she has the right to be there because her son lives there, yada yada yada... The conversation just got more and more heated beacuse she, insulted me, my children and would not leave.. I basicly had to walk away from her as so did her son and my boyfriend every time she tried to get them involved in our discusion.. No one took sides that day which was fine and I finaly felt better to have stood up for myself.. She was no longer going to come over and dis respect me.. Well that lasted all of a week.. She came over this past weekend and loaded all her sons clothes in her car and drove them to the laundry mat.. of course she came back by the house to drop it off but I had errand to run so I wasn't home.. Of course she took the oportunity to move things around in my house yet again.. I'm trying to not let this bother me but It's really hard when I"m the only one who seems say anything to her.. I feel like my boyfriend truely does care but he's not the type to deal with it.. The son and I hardly talk (something Im working on) he's very closed up and doesn't talk alot.. He knows his mother is crazy, but I think he chooses and knows what she does is wrong but hey, his mom does his laundry, cleans his room and picks up the dog poop.. Don't get me wrong I'll help the kid out but I'm not going to do everything for him.. He can pick up his own dog poo, and I've told him if he brings his dirty clothes to the bathroom I'll wash his clothes.. He refuses to do and even this past weekend I offered but apparently he preferes his mother to come do it.. Anyway, I don't know if I should just let this all go or keep letting her get to me.. }:)