I found this site a few weeks ago by googling 'step child is an asshole'. What a relief! I have two step-daughters, turning 9 and 10 in a couple months. Typical spoiled, whiney, daddddyyyyyy princesses. He is typical guilt parenting, but not really terrible, although he babies them so much it makes me a little nauseous sometimes. I've begun disengaging, because I have no real influence, and honestly, he barely does, we are EOWE (thank GOODNESS). Only so much a person can do with 96 hours a month.
A little background, BM is a lunatic, tried to stab him and break things over his head, punching, kicking, etc... When she was unable to manipulate him into going back to her (would have been like the 5th time). She always held the 'if you leave me I will take your kids, so he stuck around. He had finally had enough. He held her hands (the kids will back this up, they were at his side when it happened) to make her stop, and she called the police and had him arrested for 'domestic violence'. The FEmale judge threw the case out for lack of evidence, wouldn't even grant an OOP, if that tells you anything. SO needless to say, she sucks.
Luckily, other than guilt tripping him constantly over kids and trying to squeeze every dime out of him she can, she doesn't really do to much to us anymore. Not very cooperative about anything, but that's mostly it these days. No huge complaints.
The kids. Pretty ok kids, but like I said, just massively fucking babied and spoiled. Cannot entertain themselves for 5 minutes, can't do anything for themselves. Still want daddy to shower them, etc... BM actually put a stop to that last year, she said it was inappropriate, score one for horse-face! Last night the older one thought she had a UTI (turned out it was an acute case of I-need-attention-it-is) and she instead daaadyyyyy help her pee into a cup, because she couldn't do it on her own, and turned down the female nurse's offer to help. Even the nurse thought it was fucking weird, it was written all over her face. Shit like that.
Anyway. Two days ago, my bosses wife died suddenly, an aneurysm in her brain burst, she was 56. I like my boss, he is probably the nicest boss I've ever had. It was a total shock to everyone, and everyone here is just stunned and sad. I told my husband about it, and he was also shocked, and said to find out when the service was, he wanted to go with me. Found out today, service is this Saturday afternoon. I texted him. He replied that I can just go with a co-worker, I know he has his kids this weekend, right?
Just a couple days ago, before rain was in the forecast, he wanted to leave them with their mother till Sat afternoon, so he could go ride his bike with his friends (I am not a babysitter). He changed that plan when they called for rain. That was acceptable, but leaving them there to accompany his WIFE to a FUNERAL is not?? Not to mention, I work with 99% men, I would like to have my husband there with me. This response totally floored me, it is out of character for him. I just calmly texted him that I was disappointed, but he can do whatever he feels he needs to do. He said he would go, but accused me of having 'attitude' and we would talk later. W.T.F. I'm just pissed off, and confused. He has never been this way, so I am just that much more shocked. I love him so much, and would do anything for him (like sitting at the urgent care with him and SDalmost10 for hours for an itchy twat), and I thought he felt the same way. After how adamant he was last night about wanting to go with me to the funeral, I just don't get it.