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Submitted by ferretmom on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 7:13am

Yesterday at MIL's funeral sd talked through the whole service. When no one answered her or told her to shh she talked louder. Afterward I could hear people saying how rude and disrespectful she was and I could see how much it hurt H. Every time H try's to talk to her about MIL her response is Whatever. Last night she informs us that she's going to skip school today and tomorrow so she could be out all week. Just like having a vacation. The only bright spot was yesterday after the service everyone went to MIL and SFIL's home and one of the female cousins slapped sd in the face for being such a bitch. I had to hold H back but he knows sd deserved it and more. H has another doctor's appointment tomorrow and I plan on talking to the dr about everything that has happened.

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Submitted by sarahbernheart on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 7:34am

first I am truly sorry for the lose of your MIL
as for SD, she sounds like she totaly deserved to be slapped and I would have been cheering.
also I would have gone right over and to shake the hand of that cousin.
I do hope DH is ok.
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"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 7:37am

How old is sd?? She sounds like a self absorbed jerk. I am so sorry for your loss.. and that of your dh. As for Sd.. I am sure everyone is telling dh he is lucky to have you and that sd should be more respectful and less narsistic.

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Submitted by sarahbernheart on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 8:17am

my 19 y/o was acting like that at a funeral I would have escorted his butt out myself.
your poor DH and kudos to you for being a great person!
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

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Submitted by Sita Tara on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 8:56am

I posted about it at the time- SD wanted to go to the funeral b/c she would get out of school, but not the calling hours b/c she would have to miss basketball practice. The night of calling hours I snapped at her-"I'm so sorry my grandmother's death was an inconvenience FOR YOU!" Also when getting ready for calling hours and the funeral both SD was asking me if this looked good to wear, changing clothes a million times, complaining that the boys didn't have black on so why did we say she had to (we didn't) and alternating that with requests for me to curl her hair for her, etc etc etc. DH blew up at her while getting ready for the funeral b/c she snubbed wearing my nice black wool coat and wanted to wear her ripped up falling apart dingy winter coat b/c mine was not her "style."

At the dinner after calling hours she went on and on about herself babbling incessantly. My mom and dad were sitting with us. It was my father's mother who passed. SD repeats herself if the response to her story isn't satisfying, even if someone responds. So finally my mom said, "Slow down honey," In response to the third time she stated something about her sucking at basketball or being the shortest on the team etc. So SD SLOWED down and repeated it all again, which wasn't my mom's intention.

It frustrates us more than others, but gauging from what you just relayed that may only be a matter of time.

Hang in there FM. At least she's NINETEEN! Hopefully she will find her own dysfunctional way through life on her OWN soon!

"When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life." ~Geoffrey F. Abert

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Submitted by Gestalt on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 4:17pm

of my head....to see this girl was adult age- dropped my jaw!

"The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change, So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding, and love." -Jennifer Edwards

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 5:03pm

And good for H's cousin for slapping her. I would have given her a piece of my mind too.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 5:06pm

That cousin made everyone's day I bet! Sd's behavior was SO disrespectful, I hope DH lights into her too.

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

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Submitted by Tara12 on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 8:41pm

My condolences on your MIL and I was happy to hear that SD got the snot slapped out of her.

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Submitted by now4teens on Fri, 04/03/2009 - 8:49am

(I thought I posted yesterday, but noticed today that my response wasn't there!)????

But what I THOUGHT I wrote to you yesterday was...

I'm so glad that others in husband's your family saw SDs ugly behavior and decided to do something about it firsthand- literally!!

And if they only knew about her laundry list of bad behaviors, I bet they would line up behind that cousin to take part in doing out the appropriate consequences!

I'm smiling here, knowing that SD FINALLY got what was coming to her.

And PS- I'm sorry about the loss of your MIL.

"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"