Welcoming Nasty Adult SC back into the picture....HELP
Well, I am new to this site, but am looking for some advice. My husband and I were married coming up on three years ago in a few weeks. We recently had a tragic loss of a close friend which has stirred up some deep emotions for us. When we got married, we went away and were married privately with no family or children. I have two children, and he has three. My two were ecstatic! His were furious. His ex was furious as well. His ex's emotions obviously fueled his children's as well. Over time the resentment got deeper and deeper, the name calling and actions got worse. At first my husband just poo poo'd their behavior and brushed it off. As it got worse, and he saw what it was doing to me he finally took a stand and started standing up to them telling them we wouldn't put up with it. As a result of all of this and about a year into our marriage, there was no communication with any of the step children or with his parents because of our commitment to not let their behaviors continue. Now because of the loss of our friend, he feels the necessity to try and calm the waters I am frightened to allow them back in due to the very mean and very stressful things that were going on. Not to mention I don't want my children around that type of behavior. When we decided to block them out of our lives until they could grow up, it was agreed upon that we would wait until they came to us. I am asking him to abide by that decision. I feel bad, and understand he misses his kids, but on the other hand am not willing to let the disrespect back into my household. We agreed to wait for a few months and let things settle. I am afraid this is going to affect our marriage. Anybody else going thru or have been thru this? Help? Afraid and worried in Wisconsin.