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They say I made my BED!

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Submitted by Lady on Thu, 10/18/2012 - 8:38am

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Im the past I use to apologize to my skids for crap I didnt do.They always made me look like the evil SM. They would lie on me and make me look awful.I still feel like a fool for saying Im sorry to try and hold this family together .Thing is SK's say your made your bed now you need to lay in it.Saying Im sorry was never accepted anyway.So I am looking at this mess in a different way now. So far my DH has not been to any family events when his kids tell him he should be with his real family. They tell him dad you need to come see your GK but you know not to bring your wifey.So DH hasnt been to visit them. His kids are boiling mad because he is a no show. Its my DH choice how he wants to visit his family.(IM glad he is not going but his choice).His kids tell him I have him brain washed.He need's to open his eyes. They are not happy troublemakers .This is the way I see things as of now I think THEY HAVE MADE THEIR BED NOW THEY ARE LYING IN IT. Smile

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Submitted by Krispey Kreme on Thu, 10/18/2012 - 10:14am

Lady, don't ever apologize to those litle vipers again. Ever! Reinforce your DH's commitment to backing you up on this with a lot of extra whatever it is that he enjoys the most (if ya know what I mean, LOL!) Wink Most men want peace in their households and will gravitate towards the people (you) who help make their lives peaceful and pleasant.
Continue to practice your detachment skills. Don't talk to the toxic skids anymore. They chose to start a war and therefore did make their own beds, let them lay in theirs now, without having a relationship with their Dad.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Thu, 10/18/2012 - 10:17am

Yep-my ss14 has blatantly stated that he refuses to respect me, accept me as his family, and just plain old doesnt want me around (even though I've been his sm since he was 1)-well, ok buddy then hit the road-your not living in MY home then.

He's pissed because my dh wont kick me out of my own home and because he wont move out to set up house with just him and ss so he hasnt really seen or spoken to dh in months (dh has tried to call but receives no response).

I hope he's enjoying that couch he made for himself at mil's.

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Submitted by Maleficent on Fri, 10/19/2012 - 1:41pm

Good for you Lady! I was never really accepted into 'the family' by SD so she played little games--fake kisses and fake compliments in front of daddy but looks to kill when he wasn't around--talking behind my back to others in family, etc. It all backfired and now she's out of my life. It is so peaceful.

DH is free to see her or not--mostly he doesn't. Smile

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Submitted by emotionaly beat up on Mon, 10/22/2012 - 2:01am

It's heart warning to see them kick us to the kerb and open the doors to their home and hearts to daddy now that they've made it clear the wife is not welcome, only to find daddy doesn't want to come in Guess this power of being blood thing isn't so powerful when you show daddy just how vindictive you really are Smile