Thank God I can turn to Step-talk.org...40yro step son is breaking up my marriage
What to do....things were great when my husband & I got together 10yrs ago(been married 5yrs now) I came w/ an 11yro daughter (she is now 21 and in college out of state. So anyway about 6yrs ago his son bought a 2nd house we owned on our property along w/ his girlfriend...they had a son now 5yr...nasty little kid) the gal moved out a few yrs ago and the kid is here part time. The son is almost 40 and soooo disrepectful to me to his dad and now reallt being nasty 2 me...Today i had friends over for lunch he is in our garage working on something and cursing like a wild man ...f this f that and so on....I stick my head out the door and tell him to knock it off...he reply's F you (not knowing my friends are here) then he goes back over to his place and we can actually hear him calling his dad saying "blah blah blah Dad I told her to go f blah blah blah...well I surely didn't feel I needed to call my husband 2 tell him what went on I didn't do any wrong....So hubbie comes home and I didn't say a word , but could tell his undies were in a bunch..so I broached the subject.....we wound up walking next door so he could get to bottom of the story....his son tell's him in front of me I told him to shut the F up...remember I yelled out to him to lay off the f word....and I preceed to say well my friends were here for lunch...that's the main reason I yelled out at him to stop swearing.... So now he knows he is caught re handed swearing and now lying to his dad about it....he says 2me I won;t even speak 2 U ever again...like I care...this is good cause the only reason I bothered w/ him is for his dads sake....This is leading to a divorce...what can I doooooo
Nothing without your husbands
Nothing without your husbands support and what his response is when you ask for it will answer your question about where to spend your future.
It seems if in the past the fellow is disrespectful of both of you and husband has not done anything about it then nothing is going to happen this time. Or in the future. Is the boy a heavy drinker? Sounds like it - his brain is addled.
Dad can ban him from the house and garage if he desires and that's what you can ask for. Change the keys for your security.
Sounds like you have a 12
Sounds like you have a 12 year old trapped in a 40 year old's body for a step son and YES...if you husband doesn't DO SOMETHING DRASTIC - like sell out and get the two of you the hell out of there, either your marriage is doomed or you will be miserable for the rest of your life.
I'm not talking out my backside here - I have two adult step sons and my divorce will be final in a few weeks. Daddy bought the youngest one a HOUSE (against my wishes and I had all the info on how skid and his wife could get a house ON THEIR OWN but NOOOOOOOOOOO) with OUR money that I worked for and contributed to for 20-some years and that is just ONE of HUNDREDS of examples I could give you.
I am relatively new here myself and I'm not good at being blunt but I'll make an exception. Your husband should be standing up for you and your marriage and your quality of life as his wife and the quality of life of the two of you as a couple. Nothing less is going to be good enough.
Best of luck to you. And yes...this forum is a God-sent blessing to me as well. Some of the CRAP I've been dealt by my skids and their father is beyond wrong and I have been able to get a lot of it out of my system right here.
Hah I like you! Am waiting
Hah I like you! Am waiting for DH to DO SOMETHING DRASTIC but is a long time coming. He still hasnt seen the light with. his daughter. Am wondering just where we'll be this time next year? He loves me to bits (apparently) but............ sigh.........
This. forum has been a blessing to me too....thanks for what you said and for bei ng so blunt.
Thanks everyone 4 the
Thanks everyone 4 the support....to answer the last comment....we have never been buddy-buddy. He always acted like I intimidated him, or maybe more like he was hiding something....never any eye contact.
Yes Orange County, he does drink....like every weekend for sure and to oblivion. he acts like he's a party boy...he has this 5yr old son that is at his house more then at his mom's, so he drinks pretty much at home....he also has had about on average 5-7 different girlfriends in the past 2 yrs....his latest
is very insecure 37yr old (w/ 2 kids of her own),they seem to compliment each other
She told me he didn't like her 11yo son much....so you see where this is going.Unless she is as stupid as he is, she best high tail it out of there. I mean I never would have thought I'd have skid problems considering the fact that they are adults.
I think this kid is trying to alienate his girlfriend and his brother and his girlfriend from me...as we had a BBQ yesterday and they came over not together but they took turns and were very distant toward me. Well my attitude is now that I could care less.Like who the HECK are these people especially the girlfriends. (well maybe they will be around longer then me) I'm going to give this until my daughter is out of school (1 more Yr at college), if I can stand it that long. By then he should be ready to retire, sell this home and get a nice retirement home down south...far away from his kids.
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FWIW I would ask husband
FWIW I would ask husband where he stood on the whole situation.. Letting his son talk to you like that is way beyond acceptable.. He needs to find a new place to live if he cant act like an adult.