I am a ten year stepmom to four and a 2 year wife to my current husband. We have a seventeen month old together and another baby on the way. From the moment I entered the picture the ex wife has alienated all four children to hate dad and me and now resent a defenceless baby. Stepkids are 16,18,20, and 24. Oldest is pregnant and drug addicted and homeless. Second oldest is a town bicycle who does drugs recreationally and has (to date four abortions) unprotected sex and just terminated the pregnancy whenever she finds out she is - works part time and relies on BM to pay unpaid balances for apartment/phone, etc. Spoilt sour miserable human being that kills animals and betrays anyone to get her own way. Older stepson, 18 made it to a grade 10 education before dropping out, does drugs and plays video games in moms basement all day.  Youngest stepson is into hard drugs and is currently awaiting trial for a serious offence against a twelve year old girl.

I'm sure my disgust for all four of these people is spilling over in my descriptions of them but please give me some grace for having put in ten years of love, blood, sweat and tears, and they hate us viciously and do everything they can to destroy my life, my reputation, and my marriage.  I'm not the reason their parents divorced. BM was having affairs and meeting men in the shed on their property while my husband was even home and had no idea until she flat out told him. She then uprooted the kids, left, and destroyed him for almost a year until I entered his life, and then suddenly she wanted him back.

I've been attacked physically myself and my husband as well, over the years by both kids and ex wife, I've had to deal with my animals having been murdered during a break in by them while I've been away. They've stolen from me, threatened me, and worst of all the ex wife manipulated my husband into spending a night with her in 2018 and then coming home to me with a completely changed mind and blaming me for the gap between himself and his children. We were able to reconcile and work things out briefly, but the ex wife followed that episode with even more violence and abuse through the kids.

About two months ago we restricted all contact and told BM we would no longer tolerate the abuse and harassment so we blocked her phone number on every device after she nearly convinced my husband to spend another night with her. We gave her an email address with access for each of us and our lawyer and informed her that all contact will now be monitored and any abuse will immediately be dealt with lawfully. The harassment stopped for about a month.

Then last month the youngest son suddenly regained an interest in his father and began calling and texting my husband and convincing him to go to bms home to see him. Husband and I went to marriage counceling and counselor tells husband his first family is forcing him to choose one or the other and until he does, the games will not stop. So he stopped answering calls from his son and said he would only do it if I was right there to hear what is actually being said, since the trust no longer exists between us.

Well the kid decided to show up at our property unannounced with BM hiding in his car. She waited until he was in the house and then she tried to get my husbands attention to have him sneak outside to see her. I waited for them to leave and I phoned the police and she has been warned not to return to our property or she will be charged. Now the kid will not stop blowing up my phone and calling me controlling and saying I tore up the family and I stole dad away. It went too far Friday night when he texted me threatening my infant. I am inconsolable and now I feel lost and unsure where to go from here.  I texted the kid to stop texting me and he continued until I threatened to call the police and then finally stopped. I've not reported his threat to my child and my unborn baby but I would like to make someone officially aware that we are on the verge of more violence, now from a minor... I thought about calling children's services but I am concerned of the potential repercussion.

I greatly and respectfully appreciate anyone taking the time to read this and relate, any advice is appreciated -  I would like to keep my marriage despite the betrayals. The ex wife and kids will narrate this as me being the catalyst and the reason for all the chaos but I know this situation is not my fault and it's not my problem that they can not tolerate my boundaries when their father never had any. I hope I'm making some sense. My mind is foggy today.