She has filed for welfare..... anyone else going/gone through this?
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and are discussing marriage. We were about to get engaged when he got a letter from the state saying that his ex filed for welfare. This is a woman who owns her home outright, does not want to work, has a second place by a lake and owns two boats. She is in a relationship with someone who has a very high paying job (for over ten years now). They own the home together. So right off the bat something doesn't seem right here. Their divorce is a 50/50 split with both waiving their right to child support. In reality, one child of college age lives with him full-time and the other of high school age is with him 90% percent of the time. So he is supporting the kids fully. His ex has been very unreliable and has some health issues so it's a very tricky situation. He is very upset but doesn't want to get a lawyer because of the expense. I want to protect our future together.
She has told the kids that if he has to pay child support she will give the money back to him. He seems to believe her. I do not. She is not trustworthy by any means and is very bad with money (has bankrupcy in her recent history due to irresponsible spending). I do not want this woman holding our financial future in her hands. I don't know what to do. Has anyone been through anything like this before? If so, what was the legal outcome? Was a lawyer necessary?
CS and custody can always be
CS and custody can always be modified. If she is receiving government assistance, there is a chance your state government will not allow her to waive CS but I am not sure how that works exactly.
Thanks. That's what I am
Thanks. That's what I am afraid of. However, he is supporting the kids so to have pay child support on top of that is just not fair. But the state will only go by what is in the divorce agreement, not what is actually happening.
The school age child is going
The school age child is going to be 16 in August. This poor guy works two jobs to be able to pay the bills. Does child support end at 18 or when they graduate from College?
Also, if we do get engaged or
Also, if we do get engaged or married, will my income factor into his child support arrangment?
Pass the vodka!!!
Pass the vodka!!! :?
Thanks. That's what I want to
Thanks. That's what I want to do. The situation screams of something rotten in denmark to me. She owns her home outright. Morgage was discharged 4 years ago. It's not upside down, it's paid for. She and her life partner own the home together according to the registry of deeds. She also owns two recreational vehicles (apparently that doesn't matter though) and the vacation place. It's all free and clear. Add to this that she is expecting a large settlement from a car accident any time now.
I don't know what our state laws are on 50/50 child support. I will have to research it. I know he pays health insurance for both of the kids and for her but she has to give him half of the money for the kids and remiburse him for herself.
I feel for you. I am in the
I feel for you. I am in the same type of situation. The reason my husband and his ex wife and currently in the midst of a custody battle is because his ex filed for medicaid, foodstamps and cash assistance from the state of FL. She lied and said she was unaware that the state would go after him for CS. She couldn't have gotten her benefits had she not told them to proceed with going after him for CS. All she cares about is her free food and healthcare. She doesn't work and doesn't actively look for a job. She is a LEECH. So now here we are $6,000 into a custody case. Luckily the CS case was dismissed but at a great expense. ARGH!!!
I'm sorry to hear about your
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. We found out last night that my BF's ex is going to be receiving SSDI. We are not sure what that means for us if anything. Do you know if you can receive both SSDI and welfare/foodstamps? If so, then nothing has changed. If no, then maybe this whole thing has come to an end for us as the welfare case would be dropped. Her welfare award is only $300 a month. Not sure what portion of that is considered child support or what his payment would be. We are trying to figure out if it would cost less to pay the child support (she is almost 16 but will be going to college. I think payments stop at 18 right?) portion of the welfare or to pay a lawyer to fight this. We could stand on priciple but we need to move on with our lives and his ex is such an emotional vampire.