He's is 2 now btw

Oh I know. I've kinda got one made that has EVERYTHING. I'm more just wondering, for his mental health, how long and often his visits should be. He cannot speak yet and has been showing signs if autism spectrum

She has seen him 28 times in 1 1/2 years. We used to set up 3 visits a week. She just got a job in april. Before that it was I'm partying, I don't have a ride, or there would just be no excuse.
Ha 24 hours notice? I don't think she gets other people have life's too. We're lucky if we get an hour or 2 notice. Yes he's still in diapers, yes he is restricted from sugar and certain food colors. She has no car in case of an emergency. I think the missing one visit is fair. That's what the courts do here, that's why I'm doing it. She can reschedule, but she cannot just miss iy. She NEVER reschedules, doesn't even ask to see him on a different day. She also need parenting classes, which she was court ordered to take but never did. She has NO idea what to do with him or how to deal with his 30 minute long tantrums

She disappears for 2 to 3 months at a time. Us and the lawyer think she need to prove to her son she is going to stick around. The step up plan is 4 months, she would see him every turtles and Thurs then every other sat. I feel like she shouldn't muss any visits, plus it makes her build up to overnights. This poor child has NO idea who she is, she needs to really work on that

From February this year she's missed 1 to 2 visits a month, she one gets one every Monday for an hour.
Last year he didn't see her from June to August then from September to december. I wish she would make an effort to come see him more than once a week, he literally screams if she touches him

Whoops sorry meant Tuesdays. So should I put it can be revised at school age? Or make a school age plan too? Should I expect her to help with preschool exspenses? He's about to start a church preschool. She is ordered to pay 100 a month in child support but we only see about 20 seeing as she is a waitress and they only get paid 2.50 an hour. I put no secondhand smoke, he's allergic, so if he comes home smelling like smoke is she in trouble?

It's a step up plan, when she completes the step up plan she gets the standard visitation. They do this to parents who are coming off of supervised visitation to see if they can handle it. That's why it starts over if she misses one, gives her more initiative to complete it.

That's all she gets paid per hpur. They can only take half of her paycheck, she gets her tips. Ha he has to wear organics so can't even buy a pack.she has bought him nothing since she's had him, or since we've had him. Because were scared the judge would see that she's passed her hair follicle tests and just throw him into every other weekend

And what happens if we move? My hubby is getting a new job and there are no geographical restrictions so we are thinking of moving 4 hours away

She's moved 3 times and we've had to commute to her. What do you mean take him away? He's lived with us since he was a baby. She would still get her visits. We've never stopped her from having visits, she stops herself.

I have no problem driving, but if it's a short visit I think she should have to meet halfway, plus we wouldn't be moving for 6 mobths

We want her to see him more just skowly. She's seen him 14 hours from January 22nd until now. 14 hours! We have offered her to come more, she's always too busy.

I just think it should go slow. My stepson is only 2 and is already having a ton of problems, and they suspect it's from her drug use. He has severe sensory issues, can only say 2 words, and is EXTREMELY emotional. Especially towards her.

The judge told her she had to come to all visits, take drug tests on time (they're counted dirty every time she's late, which has been everytime), take parenting classes (she hasnt), and follow cps orders (she never did) to bring my husband back to court to modify visitation.

We're trying to work with her but she's making it hard. She was supposed to come talk about these papers everyday this week but she's decided everyday she's too busy.

I want her to start coming to see him more supervised before getting him by herself. I don't feel seeing him 14 hours this whole year constitutes unsupervised visits. He needs to know her better!

Forget the moving. That will not be for 6 months. Now she says it can't be the same time every week due to work. I have a life to, I cannot cater to her every need because I will have to drop him off and pick him up. I go to school full time and have another baby. And my stepson has to have routine. Everything has to be done at the same times or he has a breakdown. She's making this hard.

He screams and crystal and runs to me or his dad when she talks to him or touches him, it's been getting progressively worse the older he gets. She thinks once he's alone with her he won't do that, but he should be more comfortable with her at his house where his stuff is, and he's not. He even does this when I go tI a separate room and stay away the whole visit. It's even worse when she brings her other 2 kids he really freaks out.

Early childhood intervention is coming to check him out in a week for autism. I just feel like he won't be a us she will have her other 2 kids when she has him. That's how she wants it. They are so overwhelming to him saying they're hus brother and hugging and kissing him. He freaks out when they do that. And she shows her TRUE parenting skills when she brings them. She CANNOT handle those 2, so I don't know how she will handle 3 and a newborn, she's pregnant right now.

She complains that her other baby daddy couldn't pick them up til Monday instead of sunday. Really? You would think you would be so excited to have them an extra day, but not her. Plus we never know where she's living, it's always boyfriend after boyfriend and her sisters house is the in between house. She says she applied for housing, but I don't believe her.

Oh and I want to day, this behavior is recent, like the last 3 months. He gets worse and worse every monday. He doesn't always run to us, only when she tells him to give her a hug or a kiss. Anything else he starts kicking and screaming on the floor. He does this anyways to us, it's just ten times worse when she comes. He's getting confused because she comes over here saying momma this momma that, but he sees as momma. Then he has these 2 kids kissing all over him saying they are his brother when he NEVER sees them, the only sibling he knows is his sister. It hurts me to see him so hurt and confusef

Yeah I know. Her reason for not coming to see him on her 1 visit she gets now is because she gets called in. I'm sorry but I would tell them I could come in til after my visit with my son, that is no excuse.
She can take off an entire week every month and then 3 to 4 days here and there but yet she cannot have a set schedule. She's really starting to pass me off. Then she says she will only do it if she can have him the same weekends she has her other kids.

She needs to build her relationship with him and quit trying to for e his half brothers onto him so hard. Oh I know she makes good money. She always has brand new stuff and money to go out but no money for child suppoet, diapers, or clothes. It's sad. Oh and she's so excited she's pregnant cause now she can get medicaid and food stamps again, which is super low.

No its not still open. They close it if the other parent gets full custody, and both dad's of her kids have full custody so there was no point. They wanted to close it anyways because she wouldn't do ANYTHING they asked her to. They were at our court date last august and told the judge they recommended he remain with his father and she continue to be supervised

Thank you all for your help! We spoke to our actual lawyer yesterday and he said we can do whatever we want. He made our custody papers state mutually agreed upon visitation after a year, so if she won't agree to what we want her to do then she has to take my husband to court, to basically get the same thing we've offered. It's nice having power over her deadbeat, man using, drug abusing ass

We already have a custody order, my husband has full custody, and the papers give him all the power. They say after a year he can try unsupervised with her. If it doesn't work we will stop and she can take him to court if she wants.