STEP DADDY
I am a step mom of 2 little girls. Great kids. My husband gets them one evening a week and every other weekend...we both wish we could see them more but as much as we both work ,this arrangement works better,for now anyway. Anyway the kids mother and my husband and I all get along well, its been great for a while now,there was a time where there was a lot of anger and we all made everything difficult for each other. None of us want that ever again and are all trying hard to get along for the sake of the girls. Her mother and I are friends on facebook. I rarely go on but when I do,shes all over my news feed and she literally posts 10x a day about what shes doing. It got to be a little much so I found out a way to not have her posts pop up every time I log on. From time to time she tags me in posts, when it relates to the kids. Nothing bad ,its actually quite nice im included.. I dont care much for facebook,some people live on it and it seems they live more on computer world that in the moment...anyway lately I've seen posts about her husband being called "daddy" or "super dad" and gives him pats on the back for caring for the kids or doing something for them...now im all for a caring stepparent,as I try my best to be a positive role model but not over stepping but it really bothers me. My husband thinks facebook is dumb and doesn't care. I know they know who dad is,but I also know their mother has a huge influence on them on how they think. They dont call him dad, thank god but in a way I feel she may slowly wean them into it. I mean why call him daddy publicly if he's not the actual father? I wouldn't say this to her knowing it may stir up trouble or make her think I stalk her facebook.. I am told to brush it off and not care but every time I see a tag of her husband doing great "daddy dutys" it makes me upset. Am I over reacting?
December 2013 my SS came to
December 2013 my SS came to us for holiday time and called my SO by his. He called his SF dad/ daddy. It was something my SO let slide after correcting my SS about calling him by his name. I found it incredibly offensive.
I did not get involved though other than to reinforce my SO is dad. I left the SF thing alone. My SS now sees his SF as his male role model *daddy* and primary caregiver/ needs meeter. This is one topic I firmly believe your DH/ spouse/ partner needs to make a call on. It is his child and if he is fine with this let it go.
You can personally not agree with it. Stay out of it and keep your own council. It is their relationship not yours.
I agree. I think it's great
I agree. I think it's great that you guys all get along and all. I would stop looking at her FB. If DH has an issue with SF being called DAd , let him bring it up.
I honestly wouldn't stress about it. I know, sometimes easier said than done but I also agree that the mom and dad titles are over rated.
My SDs met their BM's new BF on a three hour visit. She told them that day " and you WILL call him DAD" she even slapped 4yo across the face for not calling this stranger dad. Needless to say, DH was pissed BC this was like the 4th guy in 3 mos that she had brought around the kids. But, DH handled it. Of course he got " you can't tell me what to do" blah blah blah. But still, his point was made even if not taken.