Something Fishy is Going On !
So, the BM has finally moved into her own place in a different city. Well, this past weekend the BM and BD got into a heated argument about rules and regulations. The story happened like this...My SD went on Friday to get her hair done and her BM picked her up after she was done to go back to the BM house to get settled in. Well, let me also mention that this new place that BM has is in a very dangerous part of town and she does not have a permanent vehicle. Well, I asked how was the SD going to get to and from ? Because I am not going to be chaffeuring ( my husband goes to school at night). But, that is a different issue. The storm started to brew when the BD told the BM to have the SD home early Sunday morning, so that we could all attend church together. The SD was also told by her father to call him first thing Sunday morning. Well, no call ever came and we went on to church. So, the BM calls the BD on his cell phone and says that she won't be able to get SD home until after 8 pm ???? The BD told her that she was to be home by 6 pm and that it would be a long time before SD would be seeing BM again. Of course, she didn't like that too much and started to scream and yell. The BD said that he would drive to pick up SD, but BM would not give him the address ?? This chick is looney !!! So, when the SD gets home at 6:30 pm, she was very excited because she now has her own room ?? And her mother has encouraged ger to bring clothes over, but not give out BM address. The SD said that she didn't know where BM lived. Being that she doesn't even have custody over this child, it just makes me very suspicious about her intentions.
Most divorce decree's state:
Lovers do not finally meet somewhere, they were with each other all along.
That both parents are to notifiy the other at all times of a viable address and phone number of where the child/children will be staying/living. Have your dh check his divorce decree, if this is so stated(as it should be) then bm is in contempt of the decree if she does not provide the address to where sd will be staying while in bm's care. If this is the case, I personally would not allow sd to go to bm's for visitation/parent time, until a viable address is provided in case of emergency's. You stated that bm is now residing in a dangerous part of town, that is probably why she does not want your dh to have an address(embarrassed)but too bad, a dangerous part of town is all the more reason the address should be provided before visitation resumes.