I'm so sorry you're going through this? Must you really stay 2 more weeks? Isn't there any family or friends you could stay with? You really need to get out of that situation!

Hugs, and good luck to you!! You're going to have a MUCH better life once you're done grieving this relationship, you just wait and see!

I am in no way defending your STBXH but .... the day my XW moved out of our marital home I had a date that evening. I had not planned it but as her tail lights went up the driveway I was on the phone calling up old girlfriends. I had several dates the first week she was gone and I had more intimacy in what had been our marital bed that week than had happened during the entire 2.5 years of our marriage. Her well used body parts had been accepting deposits from every available pecker for nearly our entire marriage. Her very active sex life was happening everywhere but at home and with everyone but me. I was pretty much a monk.

I changed the locks the day she moved out and for the next several months she pounded on the door regularly. A door that I often answered in nothing but a towel, smelling of passion, with a naked or semi-naked woman standing behind me. }:) XW had moved out to move in with her geriatric Fortune 500 executive sugar daddy but for some reason got very emotional when I was moving on, dating, and entertaining women in the home she left. :?

Do not lament your STBXH's complete lack of character. Get ready, move on, and enjoy your new beginning. The sooner the better.

You will move on to a quality life and happy future. He will wallow in his complete lack of character.

Grieve, it sucks having a marriage end. Engage in the grieving process but ultimately ....... Be happy!

Guys rushing out to join dating websites first thing after a breakup seems to be a very common theme.
It shows the mentality of guys in general, and the poor character of your STBEXH in particular.

Just look at Rags' story....if my SO cheated on me, I'd probably be a weepy mess, drinking a lot of wine and doing a lot of online shopping. Rags, on the other hand, went on a sex binge that probably makes my credit card balance look tiny in comparison.

It's a men vs women thing, in my opinion. Please don't be down on yourself. You are grieving, which is normal, but it's not about what you did wrong or how you were inadequate, it's all about how he can't stand the idea of being alone and wants a warm cave to dive into immediately.

((Hugs))

Of course you're sick. You've put everything into the marriage only to find out the guy never really loved you. He loved the idea of getting regular sex, that's it. Some guys are that ruled by their penis. Be overjoyed that you found out before you were dragging a couple of kids out the front door.

All of your dreams and expectations are melting in front of your eyes and all of your friends are going to feel pity and talk about you. For about a day. Then they'll get on with their lives so don't spend a lot of time being embarrassed. Maybe a half day will do it.

You really need to get out or get him out. Can you find a good enough reason to raise enough hell he'll leave for good? I mean total bitch, putting his life in danger by staying? Stark raving crazy? Maybe the dating sites is enough? Let all your hate and venom spew out and drive him out? Throw some dishes? Threaten his car windshield with a baseball bat?

I'm not condoning his behaviour but this is just a thought that occurred to me as I read your post that may make you feel a tiny bit better? Not sure though :/

Generally, from what I've experienced from my life, and my girlfriends lives, men and women seem to react differently to the end of a relationship. 

When I splt from my ex after maaany years, he was dating a girl within a week. They were together for a year or two (not sure, but I think it was quite a while) I was SO embarrassed I can't even begin to tell you. All of our mutual friends knew HE was happily with someone, and *I* was still single. It made me feel like something was wrong with me that I couldn't have moved on as quickly as he had.

At the time, I was devastated to find out that he'd moved on so quickly, and then to find out a year or so later (I really can't remember how long they were together) that the relationship lasted quite so long, I must admit I was kind of sad, (and still embarrassed) as the bitter part of me had hoped he'd get together with someone then have it fall apart, so he'd hurt like *I* had been hurting, whereas he was still in a relationship.. Petty I know, but that's how I felt.. Anyway..

Me? It took me two and a half years after breaking up with him before even *thinking* about seeing another guy. 

It may not be a case of "he never loved you" ..it may simply be a case that men and women's brains are wired SO differently that we just can't comprehend it.

((hugs)) ..you will get through this tough time and you'll be FINE.