Hi Everyone

I don't come on here very often as to be honest I'm scared I make myself sound silly however I don't really have anyone else to talk to as all my relatives are divorced women who find it difficult to see my partners and I point of view and can't see the big deal.

I don't want to bore you and I don't want to repeat myself as I have wrote posts before but quick history for those who havent is:

BF split with ex everything was fine till he met me.The ex til this point always thought he would go back but as she had an affair this was never going to happen.

Contact then was being stopped if on a rare occasion we said no or if she decided she wanted them instead. She always wanted to show they were her children and she was in charge.

Thus first court visit which she never turned up for after saying she was on holiday ( which was a lie) this resulted in a court order.

As time went on occasions things were changed on order to adapt to her as we badly wanted to form a good relasionship with her but unfortunelty time was being reduced and reduced she was saying it wasnt convienant for her (the dates and time on court order was what she wanted to start with). When again started stopping contact we went back to court. She turned up with her new boyfriend who the girls now call daddy. It got sorted in court and since contact as never been stopped. The only thing is she now goes out of her way to make them a family and us outsiders.

This results in:

This weekend twin 1 being sent to our house earlier and stoped from going on a day trip because she was cheeky to her step father and said your not my dad and I hope you die before my real daddy. So she was sent to us and the rest of them went.

Twin 2 came down later showing her dad her trophey which had her step fathers surname ingraved on it and not her fathers. This started a argument.

We then carried on with our weekend and had a lovely time until they were due to go home and twin number 2 got nasty with her father when he called her step father daddy paul (example) and not daddy. She then started repeating her name as her step fathers not his.

I just don't understand it she was happy and loving all weekend then all of a sudden its as though she feels disloyal to her mum and stepdad.

It doesnt normally bug my partner but he was so upset and said he was scared of loosing her and to be honest I am to. She at times seems so close to us then at others (normally at the end of the weekend) so far.