Please weigh-in! Vacations all or nothing?
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Ok so I would like to see what everyone else thinks.
The living situation is Me, my BD10, Boyfriend and his BD15. Then
there are his other kids SON4 (750/month CS) Daughter11 (400/month CS)
So his BD15 never gets to go on a real vacation because he can't afford to take all of his kids. I suggested that he takes BD15 and offers to take the other kids but moms have to chip in (both moms work and SON'S mom makes over 85k which is about 15k more than boyfriend).
Please note that the other kids go on several vacays a year with their moms. I can understand him wanting to take all of his kids but I don't think its fair that the 15yr old never gets to on a real trip.
Is it unfair to take one kid on vacay and leave the others behind?
I say that he needs to take
I say that he needs to take her and yes kids do understand and I wouldn't let the other mom have a say as they are not her mom. Anyway I would tell the other kids this 'you go on several vc with your mom and she needs to go on too'. However I would make it clear that their time will come that dad will take them too just not at the same time.
Now here my take on a big trip to like say disney or something then yes all kids should go but to a local theme park or something a few hours away yes fine no biggie. or even in our case we go to TX a lot and we take what kids are available or can afford to take b/c everyone will get a turn.
I think we should take her on
I think we should take her on a vacay, her mom is not around and does nothing for her and all of her dad's money goes to pay CS for his two other kids. They always come over with new clothes, shoes and toys and it seem like the oldest kid gets the short end of the stick all the time, but she never complains. She has her teenage moments but for the most part she's a good sport. I think she deserves a trip, then maybe we can save up and take them all.
To be honest, I would take
To be honest, I would take the kids that live with you and and enjoy your time. I have my BS7 and we have one on the way and my husband has 3 from a previous marriage. Husband is in the military and we are stationed in Alaska. A ticket home to Texas is over 1000.00 for each of us. So all of us going is over 6 thousand. It's just not feasible. Hubby pays 700/CS. So we are definitely on a budget. I told hubby that I want to see my family and my son wants to see his grandparents. It's not fair for him to not get to just because of the other kids. So, needless to say, the three of us are headed to Texas on Sunday morning. Were the other three upset they aren't going? Yes and no. We did take them all to Anchorage for spring break so they have gotten to go somewhere.
I feel bad but then I don't. Life isn't fair, that's the way it is. If the other kids are getting to go on vacations then take the ones that live with you and don't look back.