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ok STalkers, I really need some good advise on this one!

Bubbly1's picture

So, per Jabba's demands, we have not seen or spoken to the sd's since xmas eve. Or Jabba for that matter. Past blog has her full text rant(really LONG, text rant). She wants fdh to sign away his PR. And is refusing him contact (ALL contact)until a paternity test has been completed.

So here's the dilemma..........tomorrow is sd5's 6th bday, Jabba has banished fdh and I from both sd's lives for an undetermined length of time.

Question...........Do we try and call sdstb6? And possibly get told off by Jabba(again) or let sleeping whore/dogs lie? Fdh hasn't even brought the subject up to me.....yet. I just want to have an answer ready when he does!

Ommy's picture

I would call. That way when you get yelled at by the stepkid for "forgetting" or "not caring" you can have a record that proves that you did call and that their Mother stoped all contact. If I remember right your SO wants the kids and wants to have a good relationship right? BM is just a nut case

skylarksms's picture

I would try. But I just want to say that I have been married 10 years, with DH for 12 years. Him and PB were never married but have two skids (SD18 and SS17).

After years of dealing with her psycho-ness and PASing and endless court hearings, my SD is finally PASed out completely (and taken her baby away from his grandpa). And SS is starting to head in that direction.

My DH said that if he would have known how this was all going to end up, he probably would have given up on them a long time ago...just in order to get that kind of CRAZINESS out of our lives. Sad

Bubbly1's picture

Thanks. I was leaning this way. I just needed to hear other people say what I was feeling was the right thing. I've also looked up the laws in our state on recording phone conversations. From my understanding of it (I'm not a lawyer) we are clear to do so. Honestly, I'm hoping she goes off, on a recorder, just more to show the judge when we get our day in court. I know I'll probably regret it, we might end up w/custody, those girls need to be away from that psycho before they end up just like her! They already lie with every breath (JUST LIKE BM).

Sky, my greatest hope is "IF" we don't get custody, fdh will see Jabba for the psycho PASer she is! And break clean from them. They make him SO sad as it is. My heart breaks FOR him. He is sloooOoWwwLy starting to understand PAS and its effects. I keep reading peoples posts here about PAS to him and point out "this" is how his girls are acting! We're getting there.

Thanks again!

liks's picture

^^^^^^^ How tru this is ^^^^^^^

Our BM PASes the kids, belittles me and my DH and his family and it is so ANNOYING....

Im so glad my DH has decided to stop the shit of being always available and an atm for these little turds that are too busy trying to make their mother happy....rather than be their fathers sons....

They are full of her values, beliefs and horrid ways....nothing of their fathers good values....

Bubbly1's picture

For osd, yes. Fdh questions paternity.
No they are still married, seperated almost 4 years. But, married just the same. No co for visitation or support.