I need to give myself more credit! I know I have come a long way. I see it, my therapist see's it, my mom see's it. Now don't get me wrong I still get all bent out of shape about some shit but I have grown in a nearly impossible family dynamic, I may come out with a chip on my shoulder but I'm learning from these fucked up situations I find myself in.
With the pressure we get from our DH's, in laws, skids and our own family and friends who make sure to tell us "we knew what we were getting into" (BULLSHIT btw) we need to give ourselves more credit because we constantly have the shitty end of the stick, then we think we can get through whatever is going on the skid stabs us in the heart with the shit end of the stick!!!

LOL, ok, I might be getting carried away.

After my psycho episode after last years prom pics I vowed to never go again. FDH on Saturday says "SD16 called, she has prom pics at such and such park at 5"............F#$% NO!!!! I'm not going! He pouted, guilt tripped me, said "I'm not trying" and went by his damn self }:) The plans changed like 8 times, they gave him the wrong place to go AND I didn't have to be angry or resentful about any of it. I didn't care that she told her dad the same day of prom that they were taking pics, they changed times,places, plans, nothing. I didn't care bc it didn't affect me!!! It was great! FDH was over me not going when he pulled in the driveway. Hasn't been brought up since. Oh, I'm sure it will in the future but I stood my ground.

1 week ago today SD16 broke her 6 week silent treatment against FDH, still isn't talking to me (boo f'n hoo) and she just had prom and her birthday is in a few weeks. Coincidence? I think not.......... I can't stand her ass but not letting FDH drag me into their problems and avoiding her like the plague is working wonders!

A year ago even, I never wanted FDH to think I wasn't "trying", I let him guilt trip me bc he "needed" me to be there. I knew I didn't want to go, I knew it would give SD16 an opportunity to snub me and she did.

This year, I put a cute outfit on, curled my hair, drank a glass of wine and headed to the mall with my bio. FDH met me in the driveway, jumped in and was so lovey dovey towards me. We all had a wonderful evening together