My ss6 lives with us full time. He is a good kid and I am a nice person, but he's lived with us for 2 years now and I don't feel a motherly "bond" with him at all. I feel like a babysitter when it's just the 2 of us, and when it's the three of us I wish he wasn't there. That might sound harsh but I'm just being honest. I love my husband so much and I don't have any plans to leave because of this, but I need help coping. Recently my ss6 has been acting up in school. Nothing major, but it's been pretty much a daily occurance that there is SOME issue...He loves attention and I think he's becoming the class clown. Not the end of the world by any means, according to my MIL, my husband was the same way, as are many other 6 year olds...
Anyway, the issue is that it makes me SO MAD. I am almost always the one who picks him up from school because I have a very fliexible schedule and my husband works a 9-5. When he tells me, most days, that he got in trouble for this or that I end up SCREAMING at him. I know that this is more about pent up frustration with having him with us all the time, and less about his actions. I am 7 months pregnant so this anger is really not good for me at the moment. I talked to my husband about it and he was more than happy to "take over" the discipline and made up a chart for me to follow, so if ss6 gets 1 tally mark, this happens, 2 tally marks, that happens...so that I can keep it consistant and he can discuss the issues with ss when he gets home from work. The problem is that I still get mad and usually end up yelling, and if I don't yell I ignore him in the hopes to avoid yelling....I just feel so annoyed with him! This disengaging (although it obviously can't be a complete disengagment because he lives with us), but it's not working....has anyone been here before? Can anyone offer some advice? I'm so tired of being mad.........................