I have noticed something since the CS stopped for SD21 and SD23 - it stopped for them both last year since SD21 left her Uni course after 1 term, and SD23's came to an end when her course ended.  I just wondered if anyone else had noticed this since I'm sure DH would tell me I'm imagining it.  

SDs never, ever got me a birthday present or even a card, that I can remember - not ever.  And yet for the first time, last year - I got one from them.  DH now seems to get birthday presents and sometimes even a Father's Day card - although that often comes about 2 months after the day.  

It just appears to me that since any money that DH gives them is now entirely voluntary - eg he gave SD21 a sum for a project of hers last year - and the same for SD23 - that they are buttering the two of us up in a totally new way.  They never bothered doing this when he HAD to give them money!  

I just wondered how others who are not paying CS any more - have found their SKIDs attitude towards money from their parent who was formerly paying it?   DH was always the walking wallet to them - but since this is dependent on his generosity nowadays - they seem to have taken a slightly different attitude towards squeezing it out of him.