Well I feel like I am a in a experiment gone wrong.      It feels like there's me, my husband and my kids as a family and then his kids just kind of there.     SD does join us for meals , most often for dinner and comes up and visits occasionally.  Both stepkids stay up most of the night and sleep most of the day.    SS eats only after four and never with the family.    SD only eats lunch about 3 and dinner with the rest of us.   Both when they are awake are in their rooms gaming.   

SS does have a job offer and SD does have a application in but very little follow up on either of their parts unless its handed to them.

This morning DH came and said we needed to do something about insurance for SD.  I told him I couldn't add her to my insurance until school resumed in the Fall and that it would be Janauary before it took effect.  He said he couldn't do anything either.  Well alrighty then , I brought up that she could look into Medicaid.  She is twenty one.  She has dropped out of college and like I said living in the basement gaming all day.   I also suggested that she work as a EA in the school district and then she could get her own insurance.  He brought up I should bring that up with her.   Ok .   Oh yes she doesn't drive and so far has shown no interest in learning how to drive.

Unfortunately since we are looking into unsurance for her that means she'll be here awhile.   Big Sigh. 

So now I am feeling lke a failure as I really don't like these kids.  They don't do anything with anyone else in the family in mind.    They frequently jaunt off to a neighboring town at 3:00 in the afternoon after not talking to anyone all day.   Last night after dinner, the son went out and bought take out dinner for himself with money from Dad.    Dad often gives them money.  We buy the gas on his car, buy his insurance on his car.   I have a daughter that has paid for all those things herself since she was 16.    Currently due to the pandemic , my daughter is buying our groceries as dad was out of work due to the pandemic.  

When I had to send my son to his dad due to some problems he was having,  I had to apolize to SD because she was upset that she had caused it.  She had extreme anxiety over it.   While I sympathize with the anxiety, I also feel that you need to deal with things happening because they will happen.   I'm dealing with her living in my house, not doing anything beyond occasionally washing her dishes.  I also deal with her free loading brother who doesn't do anything .  He starts his laundry but relies on others to finish it for him.   We have two dogs, one of whom is theirs from before their father and I got together.  I feed the dog, watch the dog during the day (its old and pees frequently) and take the dog to the vet when needed.  The other dog they keep saying they feel bad about it being by itself all day.  However, they only go out , She once a day for about five minutes, SS about every three or four days.  Neither have taken that dog for a walk, feed it or bathe it or even play with it.   But it looks so sad sitting there by the door.  Up to me I would get rid of both dogs.  First offer on the one outside I'm tempted to give it to that person.

Every day when Dad asks what she did today , "oh nothing"   She's 21 and needs to do something.      Our town isn't that big and we do have a bus system.   Also the mall Target, and several other stores are within walking distance of our house.    Just get out and meet people , hang out do something or stop saying you're bored.     Ugh.

I so feel like throwing in the hat and leaving.