Hi, I've not been on for a few years, muddling along as you do. Things weren't great but not unbearable until...

OH proposed and we are getting married. Since SD16 found out shes been hell on earth.

Shes a bridesmaid and threw the biggest tantrum ever when she found out she isn't chief bridesmaid. The way shes been acting shes lucky shes invited.

SD16 has also been abusive to DD6 and favours DD5 buying dd5 toys and giving them to her in front of dd6. SD16 has gone out of her way to cause arguments' in our family since she found out about the wedding. I've tried to involve her, let her choose the bridesmaid dress etc, I've invited her boyfriends family to the wedding at her request, but no matter what i do she seems determined to be miserable.

Since i started i might as well continue ranting....

Also SD16 has finished school now, i think she should get a part time job or do some chores is this unreasonable?

She is also leaving used sanitary towels in her bedroom for weeks on end, i refuse to clean them up and wont let my kids in her room. I get so paranoid that i am being unreasonable she also leaves toilet paper on the floor and dirty knickers around which she knows i find gross.

advice appreciated x