I've been totally ignored on Father's Day

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I'm hurt and pissed off. My two grown son's never call me unless they want money and don't even take the time to text me happy father's day and my step kids? They rush out of here to spend time with their dad and don't say a word to me either. I treat them like my own and I get no appreciation whatsoever. Not even a thank you for what I do for them. My wife buys them whatever they want and they have no chores or responsibilities. She's scared to death that they will run off and live with their dad, so they don't do a thing. We share a bank account and she just gets them whatever they want. I'm getting resentful and she doesn't want separate accounts so I just have to live with it or leave cause it's not going to change. I'm not leaving, so I just pray that eventually things will get better because we have only been married a year I just feel like I don't matter at all. I feel like a walking checkbook. None of the kids spend time with me. My kids or my step kids. One plays nothing but video games online for 14 hrs a day and the 18 yr girl just sleeps here and stays gone the rest of the time. Unless she wants something. This is so frustrating. I just don't know what to do.

BS!!!! I expect my kids to

BS!!!! I expect my kids to appreciate anything extra I do for them. I have to feed them, doesn't mean it has to be what they want. I have to cloth them doesn't mean it can't be goodwill. They want the nice, extras? They will earn it with appreciation, chores, good attitude, good grades.
If I did expect my bios to appreciate I would be a failure as a parent for raising entitled bratty children.

Take half the money and open

Take half the money and open your own acct. Deposit all your paychecks in your own acct, split household expenses 50/50. Who cares if she doesn't want separate accounts. Of course she doesn't. She likes you footing the bill for her ignorant kids.

Kids do what they are taught.

Kids do what they are taught. They were raised to be that way. Sorry.

My DH is a little sad because, while his kids did recognize Fathers Day, they didn't do much. But the truth is, HE is the one who raised them to be entitled, selfish young adults. By not insisting they say thank you. By giving in to every whim and demand. By telling them they were all AWESOME just for being. By accepting less than stellar performance in all things. By never giving them chores, or allowances, or teaching them how to earn and appreciate.

So, if you don't like how your kids are........

Thanks everyone. My wife came

Thanks everyone. My wife came home and did a lot of special things for me tonight. She felt really bad because of the way her kids were behaving. She made them tell me thank you for the beds that we bought them. She's really good to me. She does work and she earns as much money as I do. The money she spends doesn't put us in a bind financially. It just pisses me off that her kids feel so entitled. Life is going to kick their butts when they get into the real world and I hate that. So, Yes her kids are bratty, spoiled, and don't appreciate anything. She hates it too. They were raised that way by their father and their grandmother. Every time she puts her foot down the kids just run off to their grandmothers and stays with her and then she lavishes them with expensive dinners and gifts. So in a sense she's being undermined by her ex husband and his mother. Sure she could stop them from going over there, but she's not willing to fight with them or risk getting arrested by going over there and making them come back home.They have a lot of pull with the law enforcement in this town. I'll take into consideration the separate accounts because I believe that kids should earn what they get. It shouldn't just be given to them, but they basically blackmail my wife and tell her that they will just move in with their dad if they don't get what they want. My two boys pulled that on me when they were younger and I packed their bags and called their mom to come get them! My wife just doesn't have the courage to do that, so it makes it difficult for me too. Things are gradually getting better around here, but it's definitely stressful on me. I know the kids need limits, but if I want my marriage to last I think it's going to take being patient with my wife and allow her to deal with their bad behavior. I'm thinking the best thing I can do is bite my tongue and let her discipline as she sees fit. Even though I disagree with her giving into them so much I do know that she is trying to get them to change. We are making progress, but I wish it was more than it is! Thank you for letting me vent. Hope you guys had a great Fathers Day.