It must be rocket science
SD12 has food sensitivities and sugar intake is monitored.
BS brings chocolate home to sell for a fundraiser and keeps it in his room so SD12 won't take it. I allow her to buy a chocolate and give her the money for it. All good. Next day BS asks if SD was allowed more chocolate because she had bought 3 bars and ate them that afternoon. Turns out SD raided her dads car and stole money from it,Lied to BS that we said she could have more.
DH decided her punishment should be 3 weeks of no screen time. Its been a week. Guess who has breached the punishment every damn day. Guess who has done sfa about it. Guess who were snuggling together on the couch when i got home from work tonight with the tv on looking at iphone calendar and discussing that 3 weeks should only be school days and not this upcoming long weekend. Guess who is disengaging from both Sd amd DH.
Could anyone get any more clueless.
This is the worst!!!! DH has
This is the worst!!!! DH has zero problems following through with our own two boys, but SS8...gets away with EVERYTHING!!! And there is always some stupid rationalization like your DH did. So annoying. I feel you.
ONE example, remember this
ONE example, remember this happens with EVERY punishment though: SS was being mean to DS and after being told 3 times, I told him just to go to bed for the night. It's was 8:30 anyways. DH then starts trying to get the other kids ready for bed. I told him no, if everybody else is going to bed, it takes away from the punishment, you should go watch a cartoon with the boys before bed really quick because SS should know that he is missing out because of HIS bad behavior. DH agreed and I was shocked. Then bedtime for the rest rolls around. We get everyone tucked in, I go outside for a cigarette, so gone 5 minutes at the most. Come back in and DH has SS out of the bed watching stuff on the iPad! WTF?! I lost it. What is this shit? DH "well I think the point was made." I don't care if the point was made or not, now it's way past bedtime and I told him bed for the rest of the night, you are undermining me! I took the iPad right out of DHs hand and told SS to get in the bed. Grrrrrrr
I can beat that. Sd was sent
I can beat that. Sd was sent to her room as punishment by DH. A short while later i wonder where he is and discover him in SD room playing card game with sd. "0not breaching the punishment" says Superdad "shes still in her room i just want her to know she is still loved".
"When have you ever played cards with her before" i ask inbetween gagging.
"Never" says SuperIdiotDad
" well i guess she'll never f*ck up again cos her punishment was so abhorrent then".
Freaking clueless
I could see my husband doing
I could see my husband doing this as well. How pathetic.
This is my DH as well. SD's
This is my DH as well.
SD's grounded, he tells me. But he doesn't want to be a "jerk" about so let's take her to DQ.
Wants wrong with some parents? In trouble does not equal privileges like ice cream. And he wonders why at 8, she's still throwing tantrums in stores. Couldn't be because she gets whatever she wants.
The thing is my DH complains about BM's guilty parenting but then does and says shit like this.
By the way, DH didn't have his own money that day and expected me to run out for ice cream just for her. Never mind my own 3 kids. Didn't happen. I just turned away disgusted and acted like I didn't hear. I refuse to go along with their failing parenting.
Yeah. DH says the thing about
Yeah. DH says the thing about being a jerk too. Yes, as adults, we give our children consequences and shouldn't hold grudges or be rude to them, it's about teaching a lesson, not being angry. However, you can't take one thing away and replace it with another and rationalize that "just because they are being punished doesn't mean I have to be an asshole to them."
This kind of thing drives me
This kind of thing drives me nuts. I don't understand parents who can't follow through with proper punishments. My husband is not much different than yours.