Hi...
Hey I Am new the Forum, But not new to the concept, a very good friend of Mine has already put my situation up on this website, maybe a month or so back. I am 21, I am dating a 23 year old "single" father, The mother is on the scene, but for lack of better terminology, not that it is really my place to judge, useless. She is, still young herself, and still very thoroughly enjoys her freedoms, and by word of the father kind of just uses her daughter as a little "Barbie doll" to play dress up with, as a child would do with an actual doll.
continuing on...
upon meeting my boyfriend going on 3 years ago it was a sheer mess, the mother as to be expected got very upset. She from what my boyfriend has told me, has a lying problem so as soon as she found out who I was came to me gushing out all these rediculous lies, and at the time was able to shake me enough to have me bend over and cater. Over time I realized much of what she says was open threats.
Ok Long story short because I see Myself spewing out a novel,
I am involved with a 23 yr old single father,(we have tried being apart 5monthes or so it didnt work well, so we got back together) who has a 4 year old daughter, and am going through the same "general" trials and tribulations of anyone put in a situation like this. The daughter as of right now, "loves" me, "Im her best friend", Im around her almost everyday, and I guess I am just here for the days where the road is rocky, and I need someone to talk to, or when I need advice based on the fact that I am still young, and am always open for suggestions, and ladies run away is not an option LoL :-). I have thought very long and hard as per what I am getting myself into, and despite I probably have minimal comprehension as to what it is really going to be like, I want to try. The Mother used to be an issue, But has recently calmed down with acquiring herself a new "love" Interest. Alright, thats enough, I am done giving summary. Ill be back when the next issue ( because there have been plenty already) presents itself...
J
I hear you...
I don't if it matters how young or old we are in step parenting experiences, it isn't any easier. I admire your commitment to this relationship...you will definitely need that kind of resolve to thrive. I wish you luck and happiness as you continue with your relationship. I sincerely hope that your BF is supportive and understanding of your needs as that is the key to success in these such relationships. Take care, J!
Welcome...
You're not alone in this endeavor, which you'll soon find out just reading the many many many posts on various issues throughout this site. This is a great place to be. So, don't feel awkward to post here and the best way to help yourself in this is by getting involved with others here and sharing. So, kudos for your first post!
Everyone here has a story with unique circumstances, and yours is no different. What I, and others, can offer you here is our stories to share with you that may help you. Perhaps to take the higher road, or a road less traveled, or just... DON'T GO THERE! I certainly like it when someone dusts off that "No Trespassing" sign that seems to be covered from time to time. lol.
As for me, I just chugging-a-chug along my way day by day. Some days are good, others are hell... but I just keep marching on. (Stubborn, I am.) Right now, I have two BM's to deal with. One has finally settled down, preoccupied by a new hubby, and soon new baby... THANK GAWD, but I cringe when I hear she's having, yet another baby. Each time, postpardum depression sets in and it's HEELLLLLL for us. :o Literally. So, we're damming up our windows getting ready for the hurricane to blow any day now. Then, there is the elusive, secretive, don't want nothing but your money honey, BM2. We're in the middle of child custody and child support hearings, that just keep getting pushed further and further out. My DH will be slammed up the wahzoo for arrears that we won't be able to afford by the time this is over and done with, and my SD has only seen me about three times her entire 6 whopping years full of parent alienated life. So, I'm sure you'll see me around here A LOT! lol
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Welcome to the site!
Glad you are here! I think you'll find this site can be really helpful... it's so nice to have someone (well, lots of someones!) who will listen and be there for you when the going gets rough. You are among friends who know, who care and who have your back!
~ Anne ~
Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice: Pull down your pants and slide on the ice! -M*A*S*H (Sidney Freedman to the OR staff on dealing with stress)
Hello and Good morning..
Welcome to this site.. Its a wonderful place.. It helps when you are having issues and you cannot resolve or find the solution on your own and you put it out there and people can give you the advice you need. It also helps to seek the help here. Because when someone is looking at the situation from the outside they see things more clearly. I wish you luck..
Well you are young and so is her dad.. 23 is very young.. How old is the BM? just curious. My advice to you is if you love this man and this little girl stick it out and try your hardest. Everyday there will be something new and not alway a bed of roses. But if you love them like you say.. On the BM I asked her age, she does not want this man but she doesn't want him to be happy either. And with her little girl, well if she is that jealous of you having her daughter so much why doesn't she step up to the plate and be her mother then. Quit doing everything for herself and give her daughter something. She is a part time mom if you ask me. She needs to grow up and also be thankful that she has a mother figure in her life which is you..
There I have said it..
Best wishes to all of you..
Happy
" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..
The BM is just slightly
The BM is just slightly older then the Father. she is 24, 25 in Oct, he is 23, 24 in June...
I have nothing to terrible to say about the BM, she has made improvements from what she once was, is she where she should be, I dont personally believe so, then again who Am I too judge, who knows How I would be if in the situation. That statement brings me to a new thought though, she put herself in that sitation, ALLegedly. She supposedly screwed up her birthcontrol bc she was trying to save the relationship... not that, that is either here nor there.
She used to be really bad. She was literally stalking me, driving past my house finding out any and all information she could on me, Before my boyfriend and I had even gotten together. Leaving me hateful and threatening Messages(internet and phone). Let me stop dwelling on the past. She has definately calmed down. I dont know for how Longer, but she has. As far as her daugher is concerned, She has definately stepped up to be more of a mother now, which I was initially very happy about. Now I dont know, because my boyfriend, his family, and I see so many more likenesses and unfortunately not taking into consideration what the BM has done to me personally, her character is lacking.
She actually spends time with her daughter now, but she is still willing to drop her at the drop of a hat calling my boyfriend stating "Oh Im going out Here take her" not that Him and I mind, but just the princple behind her dropping her when its convienent for her. All In All though, there is clear improvement with her, its just much slower then anyone would hope for...
Ok...I am going to enjoy one of My simple little pleasures to keep my sanity, I am going to get a manicure before I go to work.
I shall probably be back later while sitting at my little desk doing, meaningless NOTHING!
-J-
Hi there
Welcome...As said above, we are all here for one purpose..to vent when needed and offer support when the going gets tough...and it will. But when doesn't it? Life is just a process of transitions and challenges constantly. I think one thing I'd like to suggest to you now before the years pass is to try to work on ACCEPTING things as they are right now. (and have hope and faith that things will improve.) I think I struggled with that the most. I didn't want to accept that the ex wife _____________________ (fill in the blank.) I didn't want to accept that my
DH _________________________ fill in the blank. Instead I fought it tooth and nail trying to change things and questioning..Why does she do this? Why does he do that? "I" would never behave like that. blah, blah, blah... I'm a long way from complete acceptance but every day gets a little better. Remember, you are not alone!!
SoO LOst
Welcome to the site! I hope that the advice and support that you find here helps you get through the tough times. That's why I created Step Talk.
Your situation sounds a little similar to how mine started. My husband was a very young father as well. My stepson's mother was and sometimes still is very selfish and irresponsible. She too was very young when she had my stepson. However, in her case, she didn't want to be a mother and became one by accident.
When I came on the scene, the situation was very ugly. I don't know how I made it to the point where I am now. My family didn't want me to be involved in the whole ugly scene and would have liked me to run. They liked my husband but they didn't like what being with him brought into my life.
I am a "few" years older than my husband and I was and am a very responsible person. I helped him get things in order with his situation. Today, my husband has primary custody of his son and his son is thriving in our home. It was a tough road to get to this point but we made it. We still have issues with my stepson's mom but nothing we can't handle. So, keep you chin up and do things that you know are right. It can work out.
Dawn
That is pretty funny you
That is pretty funny you should mention acceptance, because recently there has been some minor turbulance between him and I, and thats what it all has to do with. Talk about learning as you go. 2 years with the same guy, and its taken me all the way up until this very day to realize, loving him means accepting things sometimes, that i dont necassarily like. I just need to find a balance between accepting and getting walked on.
As far as the mother is concerned, I used to sit there and nitpick and nag about stupid things she did, now its just kind of the standard its just a low expectation for her. I used to try and push my opinion off on him of her stupid actions, now i understand thats her, and not much can be expected nor is there anything I can do to change that.... (maybe im actually going in the right direction).
Alright time to work, and do what i do best **EAT** LoL
Till next time
Liquid Lunch
I'm going out to eat now too...but I'm getting a liquid lunch. I'm out of sorts today because again, I am so misunderstood and I don't understand my DH's way of thinking either....Oh well.
Okay, a little more...
There is something else that I wanted to add. All the others have great points, and I particularly want to say that as Bonus Wife mentions is sooo true- acceptance is a huge part of this. A motto that I often say to people when they question something odd... "It is what it is."
Another thing that I would like to mention is that you are young... not stupid... young. There is yet a learning curve you still have to go through, we all go through, it's called maturity. And this goes for EVERYONE involved in your situation because you are ALL young. the Dad, the Mom, the Stepmom... hell we know the child is! LOL Keep that in mind when things get rocky, and they will. But for some reason, the younger the broken couple is, the worst some of the drama gets... because they are fueled by raging emotions. (It's not always the case, believe me! I've seen 40 year olds behave like 2 year olds. It's all a matter of emotion and how much each person was invested in that relationship.)
So, what am I trying to say? It's better to make sure that you think rationally, not emotionally when it comes to decisions/events with stepchildren. If something affects you on an emotional level and you get choked up about it... guess what- you're judgment is cloudy and drama will happen. It's not rational thinking you're dealing with, it's emotional. Try to disengage from the emotional part of it, and really look at it... for what it is. If BM has an outburst, let her be the one to rally, but just remain calm, try your absolute best to defuse the situation and that goes for your bf too. If he learns to keep things calm too, the better it will be. I like to say, think of it as a business transaction. Keep the emotions out of it. So, remember that when emotions run high, that usually means that your responses are just as bad as the original outburst. If you can keep things level and calm, unemotional, things run so much smoother.
If something bothers you, be willing to dissect it, look at yourself in the mirror and determine what it really is that is bothering you. If you can learn to do that, you'll be that much ahead of the 'game'. Your confidence will sky rock because you will be secure with yourself, and not let BM's insecurities affect you. I hope this all makes sense. I by no means am trying to discourage you, but give you a bit of advice I wish I had when I was at your age. I took everything so personally, and because of that, it really took a toll on me that I had to unwind from years later with counseling. I broke down one day, and it left me pretty scared. Today, I have learned so much, I grew up very fast.
I remember being your age, believe me! I thought I had the world by the ass and I was independent... can't tell me what to do. Head strong, stubborn, if you tell me a, I'll do b, if you say b, I'll do c... wait... that's still me! LOL. }:)
Believe me when I say you're among friends here.
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
So heres a fun little
So heres a fun little update.... (dramatic soap opera music)
This weekend My boyfriend was supposed to have his daughter as of sunday morning(the mother was working). So Upon speaking with him I made arrangements for us to go to the circus, for a 12:30 showing. well 10:30 comes around, and His daughter still was not Home. So hoping to not have the plans completely ruined He calls her and asks where is she, she states "here with me why", he asks "when are you bringing her over" The Mother then states "IM NOT, I dont work today I changed my schedule" (nothing out of the ordinary, she works the type of job where there is no set schedule and she can change whenever she wants). She then goes on to state she is at a friends house ( this friends residence is about 2 and half hrs away), however her parents live in town. Upon hearing this, My boyfriends heart sinks because he was so happy to be having his daughter and be able to take her to the circus, he asks which place? She tells him the one in town, and he says "well You can bring her over then because I have plans today with her" the mother then throws a hissy-fit stating "this is My time with her and Im expected to just drop her off?" My boyfriend already being fed-up "yes, yes You are! You were supposed to be working its not My fault You decide to change your schedule and not let anyone know" So according to My Boyfriend, she drives over like a "bat outta hell" ( hardly unusual) Pulls in his drive way, starts slamming doors, walks in the house, yells at her daughter for scuffing her sneaker (shes 4 years old c'mon), tells him "she is staying with me tonight." He replies "fine, Ill let you know when we are done.*Probably*around 4 but Ill let you know" She then storms off.
he then comes to pick me up around 11:30. Feathers a little ruffled because of the aggrevating morning. Its story time, he gives me the whole song dance and story of what happened. I then go into the, well, let it go for now, we have your daughter, we are going to go have a nice time. Dont let it get to you. YEY! He lightens up with the sight of his daughters amazement at the tight-rope walker, and the trapeze people flying in the air. ---We enjoy a nice few care-free hours watching clown dogs, horses, yano the whole nine.
After that fun little excursion we go to a little diner to get food. While in the middle of our meal his phone goes off and its her texting him When are you going to be done? (approximately 4 o clock.) he ignores it to just take in whatever time we can. Then since the daughter had been with the mother all weekend, he wanted to take her to go see Grandma and Grandpa ( he lives with them so their is a very strong attachment between his daughter and them) we just get to the house walk inside, sit down to call his parents and find out where they were, when the BM drives up to the intersection at infront of his house WHIPS a u-turn ( two wheelin' around the corner is how his mother refers to it) and storms up to the door. "WHAT YOU DONT KNOW HOW TO ANSWER YOUR PHONE??? I CALLED YOUR CELL I CALLED YOUR HOUSE." She snatches up the little girl, and Rudely says "GOODBYE." After she leaves his parents came home sneaking in quietly thinking the little girl is down for a nap. Im then left explaining to his mother "what happened is..."
We then sat down and discussed everything going on, and listened to the ever so pleasant voicemail she left my boyfriend. "Hi Its me I just called your house, and your cell you said around 4 o clock its quarter to 5, I was just wondering when i can come and pick Up **MY** daughter (stressing the my in my writing because that is how she said it on the phone) ok give me a call {{{{{thankyou}}}}}} (again in a very sarcastic tone) GOODBYE!"
He went through a little slump again. So I sat down next to him threw my arm around him like I usually do, gave him a kiss, and sat there in a silent comfort, then proceeded to do everything we could to take his mind off it.
his mother then states that the BM is talking about moving (running away to escape her debt-as her grandparents had done before her)to florida.... Oh boy....
This has always and will always be a crazy situation !!!
Hey its crazy ... but I can deal... (atleast for now
) loL
Ok it has taken me an entire day of work to post this ... (silly job getting in the way of my novel
) Im leaving now...
As Always
Until next time
PRAY THAT I KEEP MY saNITY! LOL
Good luck.Its really
Good luck.
Its really difficult being in a step family situation. I find that my main problem is the EX issue. It hasn't got any easier for me and its been 9 years!
Finding this site has been the best thing for me because it allows me to talk to people who ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND what im going through. I don't think h2b does. I also think its even harder when you don't have any children yourself (I don't....at least not yet).
This is a great site and its nice to have support.
Oh lordy....
That is drama. Hang in there. At least here you can vent it all off!
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Welcome
you willsoon find out this place is where you find yourself wanting to go when you have a free min or you just really need to talk to anyone who will listen. I love this site I get support and advice that I can take or ignore it is totaly up to me. It is great to have aplace that when I am at my lowest point I can go to and vent to someone who has been there and understands. Thanks girls and guys you all help me see the light at the end of the tunnel.
J. welcome and never feel that you are writing to much write a book if that is what it takes to make you feel better.
Have a great day and hang in there
Crys
ToOoOo Late!!!!!LoL I
ToOoOo Late!!!!!
LoL I already find myself here any spare minute I have at work, Inbetween the 500 things they have me doing.
Newest fun momment with the BM...
After that whole fit she threw on sunday, she calls up my boyfriend at work on monday and says Im not picking our daughter up today... You have to get her from school ( her day to have her daughter )...
I swear... No sense of ... well.. just no sense...
I almost feel bad for her sometimes, she is young, and really not the brightest person... But how do you feel bad for someone who instead of trying to strive above rolls over on their back and cries until someone caters to them
Id feel bad if she were trying and still struggling, but if you are doing nothing... I guess i dont feel much remorse....
(going to eat again lol)
Until next time
(yeah I got nothing witty to put in today)
Sweetie. You are very very
Sweetie. You are very very young. If you were my daughter I would tell you to move on. You are about to complicate your life to the millionth degree. You deserve a life for yourself, not to help someone out. He also needs to concentrate on his daughter. I hope you think about this advice, it will change your life.
I appreciate your input
I appreciate your input greatly. And as someone once told me, the heart wants what the heart wants.
Unfortunately I am not your daughter ( my mother doesnt really have much insight on my life so long as I dont succeed, atleast that is how it seems with how she keeps trying to hold me back) , I already have a complicated life, (all the more reason I should not want it to be any worse right?) It is the norm for me. It is what I am used to, and prepared to deal with, as well as the reprecussions of my decisions ( even though I do not necassarily know the full weight or exactly what is going to happen day for day). I know it will be an uphill battle the entire time, I came from a broken(more like shattered home) "Parental" (using the term parental VERY loosely) figures In and out randomly. I know how I personally resented my mother for things she did, How I felt toward my so called "step dad" who was more interested in me then my mother. I know how I resented my father. I know How I felt in the situation being the step child, and how I felt about it when I grew up and understood the situation a little better. Like I said I may not know exactly the full weight of my decision, but I have a *MINOR* idea of how future scenarios may go(though no two situations are ever Identical).
I have thought about this advice because you are not the first person to give it to me. My boyfriend does concentrate on his daughter, she is both of our main concerns at all times. His and my relationship despite the bad circumstance is rather strong actually. We have our minor "tiffs" here and there, but they are resolved, during "our" time after his daughter is in bed, while she is around she is our focus.
This is nothing new to me, Ive been told your in for a rocky road, and yano what, Bring it on because "J" comes equipped with 4 wheel drive
(arent I corney) Ive gone through plenty In My still "young" life, and almost 3 years into the relationship, I generally know what to expect out of the mother, and the relationship. A very wise person, and rather educated on this particular topic, having gone through many different parenting trials and tribulations, Asked me to step back and look at it this way... "Think very clearly about how things are now, will you be happy with that say 10 years down the road, perhaps 20?" "Is that good enough for you?" I am generally a level headed down to earth person, always had to make my own decisions, and feel the reprecussions of them (for lack of parental guidance). upon stating that, I have spent the last 3 years of my life asking myself is this something I really want to get involved in, and yes there were moments of doubt when the BM would act out, or do something "off color".
Ive been told that I need to decide does the negative out weigh the positive, or vice versa. To tell you the truth the happiness I feel when I get to spend time with his daughter and him, nothing compares. Ive always been a very down, negative person, Ive never really been happy, with much of anything, with other people, My life anything. I have found now, with the emotional support I received from him, I have much more motivation to stand up to my mother if she does something (ie taking money from me, guilt tripping me). I have found through simply talking to him, and having him give me some "tough love" when necassary, I dont need to accept unacceptable behavior.
As far as young, yes by age, I clearly am young, by life experiences, not that I feel I have lived my life completely, but I have gone through plenty, stressful, life altering, scarring, so much that I have already put myself In to therapy. As someone priorly stated, young or old we are all here for the same reason to find support when necassary, and to vent when necassary. So please do not take my age into consideration, I am not the typical 21 year old, and pride myself on not beind stereotyped as one.
please do not take this as me trying to be rude, I swear I am not. I truly do appreciate your advice, and Opinion. I just felt I should clearly state my reasoning, and thought process. Everytime someone informs me I am in for a complicated tough life, it just helps remind me that I did put myself in a complicated situation, and it does make me think a little bit harder as per whether or not I really want to do this, And i always come to the same conclusion, Yes this is what I want.
side note- I dont like kids, I never knew what to do with them. All I know is this, his daughter is the first child I get along with, can play with, and would truly do anything I could so as not to see her get hurt. (does that mean something to you, i dont know, but it truly said something to me, why this child? why do i not feel wierd around this particular child?) Acting out or not, His daughter means the world to me.
I know its going to be tough. Am i saying I know whats going to happen? no. I have a miniscule Idea of some things that **MAY** happen... but should fear of the unknown stop me from trying?
I dont feel that is a good enough reason to let go of something that truly makes me happy, despite some difficulties the BM may cause.
I have put myself in some bad situations before with catering to the boyfriend, and priorly allowing him to walk on me (the reason we took that 6 month break) I'd like to think I am a little bit smarter now and will not fall into the same pattern, and I am giving him the benefit of the doubt that he learned from his mistakes based on the fact that he was the one who came back to me.
Wow I have made a novel- time to stop- I TRULY from the bottom of my heart appreciate your insight, as well as everyone elses, Please keep it comming, regardless of what you may think it truly does make me think about my situation. I just feel, I have finally found someone who I care very deeply for, and i can accept, even LOVE something about him ( his daughter) that I never in a million years would have been able to before. I am happy with my relationships with him and his daughter, and I am content with how i handle my life now because of the support and advice I receive from him (he helps me out as much as I help him, isnt that part of a relationship?)
Ok bottom line because ive been typing a Novel no matter how many times i said i was going to stop-
If I am happy with him and his daughter, and willing to atleast try and perservere through the trials because I truly feel they are worth it, I dont feel I should give that up for something I dont necassarily know.
Please Keep advice, support, opinions, everyone comming, I do appreciate the concern, and advice, so please dont think I am being ungreatful...
I am terribly sorry If my novel comes off overwhelming, I dont know what happened, I am sitting here at work and it all just came out, I guess I am very opinionated on things i am passionate about...
I am again very sorry for rambling off at the mouth... Please dont let it stop you from advising me...Id love to hear about other peoples experience etc, it gives me just a tiny bit more insight as to what may or may not happen...
wow- I almost feel bad about putting up such an objection to everything said...
Im gonna go get some coffee, and continue to try and look busy...
Until next time
Keep the advice comming!
Honey...
You need not be sorry for someone else. Your the only authority on what matters to you, and you diffidently don't have to explain your actions to anyone else but yourself.
You'll learn that around here, you'll find a lot of posts that you won't agree with, others will disagree with you, argue with you, rebuttal and even try to prove you wrong... but it's all just a matter of opinion. Some of it I listen to, others I ignore, and many many of them leaving me scratching my head. We all go through a learning curve around here.
I too grew up in a, um... dysfunctional home where I had to grow up very very fast. I basically didn't have a childhood and had to take care of myself. So, I understand how age has no bearing at times. You are very articulate and have a generous heart to want to be apart of this family dynamic.
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Advice the Young One :-) LoL
I tried posting this before, just never quite got around to it....
Im a little confused here... Typically I mean I know the answer but there is one twist and Yes... continuing on...
Ok... so ive noticed something with My bf's daughter...
I have only witnessed her around two other children, one being a baby Baby, just over a year old (her cousin) and my Bf's Friends daughter (just recently turned two)
Now Her cousin, is a real Attention getter, Just beaming with personality, and charisma.
The two year old, is much lower key...she doesnt talk much, doesnt get into much, doesnt do much.
When ever my bf's daughter is around her cousin, she is a maniac. Its very clear that she isnt getting the attention she wants... She starts getting a little too rough with her cousin. She will be following the baby around, but a little to close so as to accidentally knock her down. Then when someone (ie My bf, his parents, his sister ( i try to keep the reprimanding as minimal as i can without letting her run wild)) she throws a fit... I mean kicking and screaming fit...Its really bad, twice already i have had to watch my bf carry her away and put her in bed while she continues screaming bloody murder...
heres that wierd little twist that I am curious about...Ok, any on looker would generally see its about the attention, BuT she always wants to see her cousin, she is always all smiles when hearing she is comming over. She is always talking about her and asking about her and giggling with delight when she is mentioned or said to be comming over. she even goes on to say can we go see ______.
Why Is there such an affection, then turned into such a jealousy?
a few ideas have popped into my mind
1) she doesnt realize that her baby cousin is so fragile, ( but that being said why does she then throw a fit)
2)why is she ok with the one child but not the other? because one is a constant threat to "her attention" ?
3) she is not used to interacting with other children and the children she is are not good influences, so she doesnt really know how to share etc...
Unfortunately this is one of the traits she took from the BM... Its always all about "me" with her, drama queen if you will, and Im glad that works for her but I dont want to see My bf's daughter become like that...
Any suggestions as to how to get her to react better with other children, and how to beat the attention thing?
On a Nice note....------
I called my boyfriend yesterday morning(sunday) and we were talking for like 5 minutes, and then his daughter gets on the phone ---"are You comming over?" "can you come over and play with me, we can play video games" So I was down there and her him and I just kinda had a movie day... he passed out on the couch, I just sat there watching the movies with her. Then I started dozing as everyone in the house was doing when suddenly I felt the blanket moved, and I look down, there is The little angel curling up with me.
My heart Melted... <3
rather then curling up with daddy on the couch the little sweetheart lifts the blanket curls up with me and falls asleep holding my arm over her belly... HOW CUTE?!?!?!?!?
Its nice that she is that comfortable with me... I love her so much.
Isnt it nice when we can report nice things happening in our difficult situations
alright, but anyhow any advice would be great thanks!!!!!
Until next time---
SMILE
smiling takes 17 muscles, frowning takes 43...Its easier to smile
(can we tell im in a good mood)
-j-
the rest of my post that isnt showing up
rather then curling up with daddy on the couch the little sweetheart lifts the blanket curls up with me and falls asleep holding my arm over her belly... HOW CUTE?!?!?!?!?
Its nice that she is that comfortable with me... I love her so much.
Isnt it nice when we can report nice things happening in our difficult situations
alright, but anyhow any advice would be great thanks!!!!!
Until next time---
SMILE
smiling takes 17 muscles, frowning takes 43...Its easier to smile
(can we tell im in a good mood)
-j-
WELCOME!!
Glad to have you here!!
Tootsie
"You gonna skin that smoke wagon, ‘er just stand there and bleed?"