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Baby Monitor... not toddler monitor. ..

lil_lady's picture

SS is turning 2 next month and SO still insists on using a baby monitor... He is a little unreliable about what time he wakes up anywhere from 7 to 9 odd day 6 ish. SO never gets up to go to him ne more. I am getting annoyed because I dont think we need to be aware every single time ss rolls over and coughs. He insists on having it on all night on level 2 because he wants to know w"if he had a rough night". I am pregnant AND sick right now so the last two nights have been woken up at 4 and 5:30 then unable to fall back asleep. On normal nights I have sleeping issues and am a light sleeper SO is a heavy sleeper... is it wrong for me to expect SO to turn it down and set an alarm for say 8? I just dont see a peoblem with ss hanging out in his crib untill wakeup time. Also what about when the baby comes now we are just supposed to wake up the baby now that will be in a crib in our room?

lil_lady's picture

I forgot to mention SO will just ignore ss if he gets up before 8 anyways and ss generally falls back to sleep untill 8 or 9.

lil_lady's picture

How would you go about convincing SO to do that he would wake up livid and most likely ready to break it off lol? I recently a few months ago actually got him to turn it from 3 to 2.. I am really annoyed and trying to figure this out properly if I just say something I will most likely rip his head off... unrested and preggo are a bad mix!

I am almost 5 months and cant put ear plugs on a baby. May invest in earplugs for the time being just feels like SO should be a bit more reasonable... guess it is a hill I might not want to die on.

lil_lady's picture

This is how I feel... we can leave our door open done and done. Am debating giving him the time to get used to the idea un till the baby comes though... or coming up with a compromise such as volume at zero and we have a video feed or volume at 1.

AlreadyGone's picture

"I am almost 5 months and cant put ear plugs on a baby"

The ear plugs would be for you, lol. No worries, lack of sleep and pregnancy brain... Wink

lil_lady's picture

I completely understood the earplugs but the baby would be in the same bedroom as us in a crib of course I cant wear earplugs with a newborn baby neither is it fair to expect it to deal with being woken by its brother.

AlreadyGone's picture

I meant for the time being UNTIL you can talk some sense in to DH. Sorry for the miscommunication, lol. Obviously you can't wear ear plugs with a newborn and obviously the monitor could wake up the new arrival so DH is going to have to compromise.

lil_lady's picture

Ya I am kinda thinking the same thing we only have the kids weekends so I am thinking of just sleeping elsewhere if I cant get anywhere with him. It really sucks I am just sick of this fight. Literally sick and tired.

lil_lady's picture

If he woke up late and his kid had been up for 3 hours and the monitor was off yes he would be pretty pissed off... Maybe I have been brain washed into thinking this would be horrible for me to do. It is the only thing we constantly argue about that he is not open minded on you should have seen the arguments we had over turning it down from 3 to 2... It is this unrealistic problem of his and he admits its a problem I am just done with dealing with the after math of loosing out on sleep. Not to mention part of this is my sleeping issues.

simifan's picture

Make him a deal... Since he is sooo concerned and you being woke up in not a problem for him - you will kick him and wake him every time you are awakened and HE must get out of bed to check on SS every time the monitor goes off. I doubt you will make it through a weekend.

lil_lady's picture

You guys have made an incredibly crappy morning into a good one lol love the ideas keep em coming...

SO just looked at me and realized that his little boy was not 18 months and is turning 2 next month... He also informed this morning at breakfast that ss slept REALLY good last night and slept in. He gor the glare of the century and when I told him I had been awake since 5:30 he said thats not true... so I came back with your right I might have fallen asleep for another hr but woken up a good 4 times during that hr.

lil_lady's picture

Im just done with this I was supposed to study all day I have my licencing exam in 1 month now I cant because I am exhausted. I know its selfish but I cant take this any more, also not putting my health/baby at risk. Giving SO and ultimatum tonight baby monitor gets put on zero or I sleep in a different room there is a video feed on it this is ridiculous.

sbm014's picture

Does he even look at or wake up during the night to look at it?

I am sorry YOU are the one having to make the ultimatum and sacrifice being comfortable when you are already doing more than he could handle with bearing his child.

lil_lady's picture

Sometimes he rolls over and looks at it... only if SS actually makes noise or coughs more then 3 times though. The problem is he can roll back over and fall back to sleep I however end up staying awake for an hour later sometimes longer. Saturday morning SD woke up at 4 I was up for another half hour and had to get up at 5:30... He didnt wake up because SS only coughed a few times. This morning SS was up at 5:30 and I was up untill about 7:30 then fell asleep on and off until about 8:30 with really restless sleep. This morning SO woke up because SS was coughing then made a few noises.. both of them went back to sleep right away. I know it seems trivial I just cant take it anymore.

LaLaLaaa's picture

I think this problem will resolve itself when baby comes and monitor Noise does wake baby up...and then crying wakes DH up! He'll get it thgen and get rid of the stupid thing! 2y olds don't need a Baby monitor!!

lil_lady's picture

Honestly cant wait for the baby it is going to cost me around 1100 dollars to write this test I need sleep and cramming to pass it. this has been a constant argument and I am done!