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Advice on holiday/birthday gifts

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Submitted by bumblebee on Tue, 09/13/2011 - 8:22pm

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OK. Soon to be married, been dating for a few years, so we've don the holiday/birthday thing with both families a few times now. I feel that skids are just as much a part of my family as BS & my family has for the most part treated them the same. FH's family apparently sees it a bit differently -- at holidays when we go over, there are gifts for skids but not BS.
I know I cannot control that, but am trying to explain this to BS. Last year I prepped him & told him that if he didn't get a gift not to say anything about it. Skids got lots of gifts from FH's family, BS got $10.

Any thoughts?

stepsonhatesme's picture

Submitted by stepsonhatesme on Tue, 09/13/2011 - 8:57pm

Maybe you could take some of his gifts over there so that he would have something to open also.7

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Submitted by caregiver1127 on Tue, 09/13/2011 - 9:29pm

I would give him a ton of gifts and when the skids start to bitch tell them to be quiet and enjoy all the gifts that DH's family gives them - you can't force DH's family to accept your son as their own grandson - so you overcompensate for him!!!

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Submitted by liks on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 9:39am

odd they are like that but perhaps they are just low on cash?

tell your BS that you will give him some cash equivalent to the skids presents and he can go buy himself something. Let him know that its not against him its just that people dont give gifts to people who are not biologically connected.....I expect that this will change one day...