As most of you know, my BF and BM are working out child support, parenting time and custody themselves per their divorce. Anyway, things have been going pretty well so far. BF and I came up with some other stuff he would like - thanks to all who gave suggestions - and we emailed them to BM. BM emailed back stating as follows...

For the sake of expediency I am going to simply put a yes, no, or I don't know down for each item you listed. We can go over the no's and I don't know's with the mediator. Also, I thought the purpose of these communications was to discuss and make decisions on what we both had already proposed. You have now added 17 new things to what we already have to decide on. That's going backwards, not forward.

Yes, they did discuss what was all ready proposed and now BM thinks that all BF should get. Some of the new stuff he is asking for are pretty standard like BM is to keep BF apprised of their son's school info, respect relationships with other family members, their birthdays and where their son will spend them (BM said no to BF having son on son's birthday)and other stuff that we both think are reasonable things to ask for and get. BM said yes to about half the list, I don't know to several and no to the others.

We suggested if BM signs their son up for sports and they practice during BF's time that BM had to get it okayed with BF first. She agreed to that but we also asked that if BF was to drive their son to these practices on his time that BM would reimburse him for milage. Since he would have to drive 60 plus miles one way to take the child to practice. BM said no to reimbursement. We added the reimbursement clause so that BM would not purposly and regularly sign their son up for activitied knowing that is would intrude on BF's time. All this is down the road, but the more we can get taken care of now for free the less will need to be taken care in mediation.

BM said she wants to get as much of this taken care of as possible by April 30 and now from her email is sounds like she does not want to give anymore or discuss anymore things that BF may want.

I also think she is getting crabby because BF has not mentioned child support. We are waiting til we get all or most of the stuff off the table before child support is discussed. Plus BM was not and is still not forecoming about her income and costs regarding their son. She has not even looked into daycare yet and baby will start in August at the age of 8 or 9 months and she has no idea how much it may cost. I did my homework so we know what the average is in her area so she can't claim it costs much higher later.

Am I loosing my mind or just my patience for this woman? BF asked to state implementing the items they have all ready agreed upon and she refused until they have an agreement signed so we are at her mercy for everything.