Since the divorce, BM has been touting certain rules about visitation, residencies, etc as fact. Come to find out she's been full of it the entire time. I don't know if she thought that we were too stupid or if she thought that BF didn't care enough to read over the parenting plan and that I'd never get access to it...but I found a LOT of discrepancies from what she says and what the REAL plan says...

First off, and most importantly, the parenting plan says NOTHING about "no overnight visitors". BM told me that in order for SS to stay overnight, there would have to be no overnight visitors, no one other than family in the house, and he would have to have his own room and not share it with anyone. Wrong! The parenting plan makes NO provisions for overnight visitations at all besides saying that they exist. There are NO stipulations whatsoever!

Also, something that I didn't know...BM says that BF is only to get SS every other (insert day here) and that's all...I didn't know that BF is actually supposed to get SS most odd holidays and every even Thanksgiving. We didn't get him this year for Thanksgiving! Also, these holiday visits are to start 6:00PM the night before and end 6:00PM the night of the holiday...so that's even MORE overnight visits. He even gets SS on SS's birthday every other year, and on BF's birthday every year! We didn't have him for either this year!

According to BM, she has sole legal custody of SS...but in all actuality, they have joint educational, medical, and extracurricular custody. According to this she's supposed to be consulting with BF on all decisions related to SS...NOT making the decision herself and informing BF after the fact like she's been doing...

BM claims that BF is to pay for half of all medical expenses including gas and food to and from appointments. What she fails to include is that she is REQUIRED to send the bill from these visits to BF no later than 10 days after she receives them. Also, her claims of this including gas and food are bogus...

It even has a specific provision that each parent has the right to not have derogatory remarks made about them by the other parent to or in the presence of the child...

I'm really glad that we got out the paperwork and had a good look for ourselves tonight. We learned a LOT. We could have already taken her to court a dozen times for contempt over the things she's done. BF is supposed to have SS for a few days this month overnight, and considering what we've learned I'm interested to see what will happen. I asked him what he'd do if BM denied him the visitation...he said he'd take her to court. He said that when he received the letter from the state about where she had turned over child support, he was done playing nice and letting her lord over him. Is it wrong for me to be so proud?