I married when I was 26, I didn't know what I was getting myself in when I decided to be with my husband. I knew he was going through a divorce and has a child. Problems regarding biomom has never crossed my mind at the time. I don't regret marrying my husband. I just wished the relationship w/his other family was a lot better.

I was initially against getting involved with my husband, because he had children from his prior marriage. As I got to know him, I realized he was wonderful, but very naive where his EW is concerned. She used him horribly and he let her because he loves his kids. When I came into the picture, she wasn't happy and the communications from her began to go downhill. She criticized his parenting and constantly told him to come home - even after we were married. It was nightmarish. For the first few years, we were in court constantly. We eventually moved far away for a little while just to give us a chance to begin our new life. We took the kids in the summer and it was actually a lot easier. When we moved a little closer, she had finally re-married - which should have made it easier, but initially it didn't. In exchange for less time during the school year and more time in the summer, we made a deal with her. She isn't happy about having to honor it, but she knows we are legally entitled to it. Would I change things - not for a minute, because I have the most beautiful baby in the world with the greatest father in the world. Do I enjoy his baggage? No. But I love him and he loves me. For the most part, that is enough.

whether I have the strength to carry on in this situation - at times it can be good but often it is hard - very very hard - I know my husband loves me but the stresses of dealing with everyday situations often have us both caught up in arguments and often not living our lives. If I had the choice to do it again I know honestly I wouldn't - I'm a very independent person so having this spare part (i.e. the ex or she-devil as I like to call her) often dictating how we live our lives is very very tough. And to be honest I get tired of the big drama - I often wonder why she can't live her life and allow us to live ours.

I wouldn't trade my guy..for anything! The drama doesn't go on everyday, and I refuse to give someone else control over my happiness. I choose my battles wisely.

Not all bio-moms are out to get the ex's... A fews weeks after I met my "x's" GF (future step-mom to my children)I told both of them that I wouldn't let my daughter treat her the way I've been treated by my step-children!

No-one should be subjected to that crap! Just because we love someone! Children need guidance not mis-guidance on how to treat people with respect.

I really never understood fully how hard biomom would try to make things difficult. I had dated my husband for 3 years prior to getting married. Biomom was hot & cold in how she acted towards me before our wedding, but after it went off the charts for about 3 years.

A friend of myself & my husband called me to get my take on what it's like being in this situation. He was thinking of marrying a woman with one child who was waiting on her divorce. I asked him if he wanted the brutal truth of how I felt or something else. He opted for the truth. I told him that it was tough. That often your opinion counts for nothing even though you get to do all types of work for the SC. That I don't think I would ever consider marrying another man with children, unless he was widowed or the ex was longer living. I then told him that it gets better, but it gets there slowly.