Sometimes you just get tired of biting your tongue. I posted this because there are so many violators that I decided fuck it, hopefully they will get it.

This was my status yesterday.

"I don't like to post anything personal on Facebook, because who really wants to read personal rants. I promise this is not a rant. This PSA comes from a place of love and growth. I'm also writing this in the hopes that it will educate others who may find themselves in or dealing with a similar dynamic, as it may provide a better understanding of how it works.
My husband and I have been together for close to a decade now and have a beautiful seven year old daughter. As some may know he was previously married and has two amazing wonderful children from that union. Before him I had never been married, nor do I have any other biological children. We have worked very hard and for the most part we are successful in co-parenting and working with the mother of my step children and her husband to make sure that all of our children feel loved and respected.
However, with as long as we have been together we still at times have to deal with the stigmas and commentary that comes a long with a "second" marriage. Most of the time from our friends and family, from a place of love but also ignorance (not knowing).
These are some of the messages that have been communicated to us over the years:
I could never deal with another woman having power over my man.
Make sure he's not using you.
You should have another child, it's not the same.
You shouldn't have another child he has too many.
You're here to help him but really you don't have any say.
Make sure that they respect you.
They don't really see you as family.
Just because their marriage ended doesn't mean we aren't all still family.
Don't do nothing extra.
Make sure she doesn't show favoritism.
Second wife, second best.
He has too much baggage.
I like her but...
I like him but...
He's very lucky to have you.
She's very lucky to have you.

Let me be clear when I say this, he does not see me as decoration and I do not see him as damaged goods. I am his wife and he is my husband. In our marriage it is just us two. We regard each other as equals and love each other deeply. Just like in any other marriage we communicate and support each others goals, wants, financial interest and are deeply committed to inclusion. We are not separate, we are one.

It is true that blended families/ re-marriages take a lot of effort and at times can be extremely challenging. That is why in these situations it is always best to dispense a caring heart, a listening ear and a thoughtful word, not just to the person that you love in the marriage, but to their significant other too.
Love and Blessings... "

My MIL ended up liking the post which she has definitely made some of these comments. Fuck it I'm ready for any backlash at this point.