So to make a long story short, SD was supposed to be signing up for 1 summer activity. We would take her one night, her mom the other, meaning we would have a night during the week where she was just at our house. Her mom lets her sign up for two, meaning she has games/practice 4 nights a week. Her mother, who had agreed to switch nights with us initially so we could each have on night of driving, refuses to switch now and says we have to take her to town both nights she is with us. DH shocked me last week and said no, this is not what we agreed to. He said she can come here Tuesday night, but if she wants to go to town, she will be staying at her moms. (If this sounds unfair, trust me, it's not. We have had a long history of being used and screwed over). I was amazed he stood his ground, because he is normally the guilty dad who lets her do everything. SD was furious. Accused us of not wanting to spend time with her, said she was a teenager and was entitled to play whatever sports she wants (umm, excuse me??)....and so on and so forth.

So needless to say, she did not come last Tuesday. Didn't message us, nothing. Came Thursday, made no mention of what went down. So essentially she has been away for a week, with the exception of her being there briefly Thursday night (and had ball so I didn't really see her). It was like the tension was lifted from our house. We had a wonderful week, no fighting, no stress. I can't believe the difference when we've had such a break from SD.

I know it sounds horrible, but it's just been so nice. No idea what she will do tonight, if she will come or not. I'm secretly hoping that as she gets older she will choose to spend more time at her mothers and we can get rid of some of the stress that is in our household. I know I shouldn't live for the day when she moves away because that may not happen, but at times lke this I get a glimpse of how much easier things could be. Just wanted to vent a little and I know this is about the only place I can do this without sounding horrid!